My husband passed away 2 years ago.the more time that passes,the more i realize how mentally abused i was.?

I bet there are lots of people who come to that realization, both women and men

yeah love does that.

are you carrying on his legacy,as so many of us have? or did you bury it with him, as so many of us have?

=( That tends to happen

Sorry to hear of your loss, and the mental abuse you suffered.

Time will bring about many memories good and bad, if I was in that situation, I would just focus on the good times and move forward.

Good luck

That is because you are disengaging emotionally from the reality of your marriage. Sometimes we are too close to a situation to see it clearly for what it is. The good news is that by realizing this you will be able to heal.

Well...if you pray...say your prayers that he finds peace in his afterlife. Try NOT to hold onto anger and resentment. Saying a little prayer for your mental recovery would be wise as well. I would suggest...don't dwell on the past and what (IS NO MORE) but try and create a happier and more positive future for yourself. Remember some of the good things about your hubby...and the next time you form a relationship with a man (If in time, you desire that)...you know what you want in a man and in a romantic relationship.
Sometimes grief counseling can help...do what you need to do to move on and to love you.