My husband shouts at me when angry, if I start crying he says: why are you crying, just shut up n listen, he s upset
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Posted by KayKai Jan 24th, 2013 at 9:07AM
He sounds like a ****. You don't need to take that from him.
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Posted by babyblue2013 Jan 24th, 2013 at 9:07AM
oh he is very cold with no affection towards you. you should leave him when you can.
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Posted by queenfishdee Jan 24th, 2013 at 9:05AM
If he loved you he'd learn to control his voice. If he even knows you he'd understand he's making you upset.
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Posted by Thekidsmom Jan 24th, 2013 at 9:12AM
That should be your clue. It is probably time to leave.
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Posted by LadyGypsy Jan 24th, 2013 at 9:12AM
Your suffering in an emotionally abusive relationship.
You deserve to feel safe and nurtured not attacked verbally.
If he has not always been like this then marriage counseling could help the situation.
If he has always yelled like this seek out your local sexual assault and domestic violence center. Tell them honestly and calmly whats going on and let them help you.
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Posted by thelonegraywolf Jan 24th, 2013 at 9:11AM
You married an abuser. Get counseling. He won't change. You have to decide how much more you can take. Many online resources to check out, and most towns have domestic violence shelters. I wish you well and peace.
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Posted by lovelywings Jan 24th, 2013 at 9:10AM
My ex husband was like that...my marriage life was a horror. I cud not talk to him bcos I was too scared.
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Posted by Andromachus Jan 24th, 2013 at 9:10AM
Grab him by his balls and show him no mercy.
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Posted by denverguy Jan 24th, 2013 at 9:08AM
he should be feeling bad he made you cry. He knows why you are crying or he is a total idiot.
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Posted by ford25045 Apr 14th, 2013 at 7:04AM
ditch him.... **** can him.... boooooooooooooooo !!!!!!!
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Posted by Truthquest Mar 7th, 2013 at 1:08PM
My late husband did that, I'll tell you how I cured him (mostly).
When he would raise his voice I would tell him (very calmly) that he was shouting and that I found it hard to listen when being shouted at, so we would talk about it when he was calmer. And then I'd walk out of the room.
He would follow me and I'd repeat what I'd said, and walk out of the room again. The first time I did it I was scared because I thought he'd blow, but because I stayed calm and didn't yell back, it completely flustered him. He was sputtering because I figured out GETTING ME TO CRY WAS THE GOAL. If he could make me cry, it meant I cared. (Don't ask me to explain that, cause it's messed up, but it was true.) He knew if it was bad enough to make me cry, I'd do anything to avoid doing that thing again.
It was just a manipulation on his part, so I turned it around. I refused to cry for him, and I refused to be yelled at. He calmed down a lot. And then, on the occasions he did yell anyway, I YELLED BACK.
Boy, it felt GREAT. haha Suddenly it was HIM telling ME to calm down.
Try it. You might like it. :-)
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Posted by holloway64 Jan 24th, 2013 at 12:09PM
not a nice way to talk to someone you love
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Posted by mrssgt Jan 24th, 2013 at 11:28AM
do you stand up for yourself?? when he starts to yell, roll your eyes & walk away. or..tell him to F-off & when he can talk nice..you will listen!! :)
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Posted by mzLEWIS Jan 24th, 2013 at 10:39AM
That's called Verbal Abuse and Abuse always escalates..
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Posted by shantilla Jan 24th, 2013 at 9:16AM
He sounds like a very u caring husband..your feelings should be of paramount importance to him...if they are not, then he is not worthy of you
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Posted by BigSprocketz Jan 24th, 2013 at 9:14AM
I'm sorry, but your husband sounds like a manipulative and controlling C unt.
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Posted by Callalilly Jan 24th, 2013 at 9:14AM
I do not know your circumstances or if you have children, but I'd get a divorce and never look back. Soon he will start shoving you around. Then he will start slapping you around, then he will beat the crap out of you and perhaps kill you. It is a progression. Get out. NOW!
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Posted by Aftershock95 Jan 24th, 2013 at 9:09AM
It sounds like he is 2 years old and know what he is doing if abuse mential abuse hope you don't have kids with him
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