No at all. When my daughter was accidentally shot and killed on the front ssteps of our home in Texas, my husband blamed it on me because I wasn't home at the time. (I was at my health club,50 miles away in San Antonio.) We were divorced at the time,, but remarried because I though that I might bring our 'blown out' family back together again...butit didn't work out and we divorced again. I went to Betty Ford because drinking was the only way that I could deal with the situation, and my drinking had gotten out of hand. I came back 'clean' and stayed that way for years. I drink a little beer or wine now, but my husband ifficult to deal withconvinced my kids that their sister was dead because I was out partying. Today, 20 yers later, they talkk to me, and have some consideration for me - except for my oldest son, who is an @sshole attorney, and doesn't care about any of us, really. I understand what you're going through, but hang in there. I've found that living a deecent life and maintaining contact with them, even if just through texting or leaving phone messages, has eventually worked with most of them. I had 5 kids - 4 boys and one daughter - and it was my daughter who was killed. Males are just difficult to deal with; but, in all lilklihood, your son will eventually 'come around' and treat you with more respect.
It'll all work out.