My man says mean **** everyday to me and makes me cry..?

why do people feel the need to be cruel to oters and project their stuff on others? It has to be more than insecurity..no mean comments please as this is very difficult for me right now and heartbreaking for sure

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well if he's being mean spirited & that is his nature you are going to be in an emotionally, mentally abusive relationship that may lead to domestic violence. some people are not batterers but they break you down with words. its still a form of control which if you let it continue may get worse. i mean, you love him which is why you are asking this because you aren't ready to leave. at the same time, you have enough love for yourself to care about the fact he is always making you cry. what is best for you is what is best for the relationship. you can seek counseling to address what the core issues are but if he isn't willing to make changes for himself & the sake of your relationship you know that he doesn't care. i'm all for working things out but if you have done all you can do, i say let it go while you still are ahead. i mean, i don't know if you are married with kids & property or not but if you aren't then you have nothing to lose but your dignity & self respect if you stay. weigh all the options, have a heart to heart with your man to see what you can do. if it doesn't work you did your best & move on.

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Other 12 Answers to My man says mean **** everyday to me and makes me cry..?

RachelR	Posted Aug 19th, 2009 at 11:19PM Don't take that **, leave his *. Rated: +11Vote for this!
LizardKing	Posted Aug 19th, 2009 at 11:03PM Tell him he is fat and has a small penis Rated: +4Vote for this!
Inominatrix	Posted Aug 19th, 2009 at 11:12PM He does that because he knows his words and gestures have power over you. Fight back, ignore him, or leave him, just show him that you won't tolerate his behavior anymore. Rated: +4Vote for this!
Intruderlvr	Posted Aug 19th, 2009 at 11:12PM Time to go.... Rated: +3Vote for this!
miguelote	Posted Aug 19th, 2009 at 11:12PM Fight back. Talk **** to him and see how he likes it. Rated: +3Vote for this!
ayankee	Posted Aug 19th, 2009 at 11:21PM Most do this because it makes them feel good about themselves to put others down.When they see it hursts you,it gives them power.It's not right and it's cruel...maybe you could talk to him about it.If it doesn't stop then,it never will and could get worse so maybe it's time to move on. Rated: +3Vote for this!
KavookiSoldier	Posted Aug 19th, 2009 at 11:21PM Some people are like that, they see only their own emotional needs and naught for anyone else's. Just remember that it reflects nothing of who you are. If he so strongly feels the need to berate others, then I am with Rachel on this. Rated: +3Vote for this!
kevinmcc	Posted Aug 19th, 2009 at 11:12PM Many people say cruel things to their partners because they don`t really love them, they want to control them. And you are living in an abusive situation and need to get out of it as noone deserves to live with any abuse. So tell him to back off or you will be off. and mean it , give him a chance to change ,which he probably won`t and if he won`t then pack your bags and leave, why should you be his abused partner, he dosn`t deserve anyone if he can`t be nice to them. Rated: +3Vote for this!
Neveah	Posted Aug 19th, 2009 at 11:21PM My first husband was the same. He had to call me names all the time, put me down, etc. I left him. People like that have low self esteem and get a kick out of putting people that are closest to them down. Reason being, makes him feel better. Good luck to you. Sounds like you need a good big can of gasoline, lol, J/K... Rated: +3Vote for this!
StarliteRose	Posted Aug 19th, 2009 at 11:12PM Wherever he is, go be somewhere else.... and continue being somewhere else for the rest of your life. That should cure it! Best of luck babe :-) Rated: +2Vote for this!
robyn	Posted Aug 19th, 2009 at 11:15PM kick his tiny weenie to the curb, dear. everyone supports you. you don't need to be with a bully. Rated: +2Vote for this!
EndlessMeghan	Posted Aug 19th, 2009 at 11:20PM Why are you with him? -Endless Rated: +1Vote for this!

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