My mom and dad recently split. its such a suprise, im 17 and i dont know what to do.?

ACT OUT! LOL just kidding...um try to make the best of it. My parents split when I was younger very traumatic but it happens us so I'd say smoke lots of pot and if your parents get angry say would they rather you be out on the streets doing who knows what hehe if pot isn't your thing...try writing your feelings and then just going out for a walk not necessarily in that order...clear your mind to think a bit. in the sixth grade this kid liked me so much he wanted me to be his girlfriend and asked if I could wish for anything so he could get it for me so I'd be happy with him...I shook my head and said he couldn't give me what I wanted because at the time I just wanted my parents to be together. Time does heal some wounds, you're going to have to feel and ride it out... *huggles* be strong xoxo

Just to add to the sound advise of Midlife, it's important that you don't take on guilt for something you could not control. And don't place blame on either parent. It will help a lot on all fronts.

Simply support each of them as they too, as individuals, adjust to their new life.

I am a grown up whose relationship hasn't worked out with my partner and we have a little girl.From my experience,all i can tell you is we are trying so much to make it good for our child but there's nothing inside,to reach this point it means your parents have agonised so much about you and your siblings if you have any,the pros and cons of their decision,how it will affect you and all.the worst place to be as an adult is to stick in arelationship that is empty,the love is gone between the man and woman,it is a sad place to be,there's misunderstandings and miscommunications.You must be surely confused coz maybe they tried so much to protect you from the build up to this split,which I must say hasn't just happened,it is the end of a series of events in their relationship.I totally understand where you are but being there to split a family is big even to them so please be understanding and love them still for the things that apply directly to you,how each one relates to you.They will get to the other side and build separate lives of which you will still be part of.Ask them honest questions so you can get true answers from the horse's mouth.Take care of yourself,you will understand the rest better in future with how your own life pans out.

Don't let yourself become the middle-person. Don't get caught in the middle, etc. This is their problems, between them. Make sure it stays between them, it'll only hurt you to get inbetween their fights with each other.

Also, it's not your fault. At all. If it was, they would have put you up for adoption. This is their problem with each other. You're just having to deal with it too.

Also, relationships don't last forever all the time. Sometimes mistakes are made. Sometimes it's just that people change. It's natural for something that had a beginning, to end someday. It's sad, but it's also normal.

Try to look for a different relationship example to look up to for your own relationships. And to admire. Because if what your parents had, didn't work for them, it won't work for you either.So keep looking for better examples of what makes a healthy relationship.

Both your parents could be moody or have problems as they adjust to all of this. Just like you might. That's natural. Try to be patient with each other. Realise, it's a lot of change for both of them.

If it's really hard for you to deal with, all the emotions, worries, etc. Then try seeing a counselor or therapist. They're good at helping with this stuff.

And like someone else suggested: you're almost done with high school and ready to move out. Focus on your future, your plans, and where you're headed. This may seem like everything right now. But the future won't wait. Besides, the distraction can be helpful and planning your future can be very stabilizing, steadying. No matter what's happening to your home life, when you move out, you'll have some space from all of that, and be making your own "home".