My mom in law went out and bought me a stroller for my kids,she didn't ask me,then informed me i need to pay?
13 Answers to "My mom in law went out and bought me a stroller for my kids,she didn't ask me,then informed me i need to pay?"
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Tell her to stop going around like an idiot buying stuff, then asking for money! - But if you get divorced, I take no responsibility!
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He won't leave me.
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Just say ,she has a great sense of humour....haha
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Tell her you did not tell her to buy it, so in other words it should be a gift to her grand kids.
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Wow, the nerve of her! Thank her for thinking of you and the kids but at this time you don't have the funds to pay her back although it is greatly needed, it wasn't in your budget and is an unexpected expense. That you know she had the best of intentions. Ask her kindly to call you next time so you have a choice in the matter. Ask her if you can give her a little now and pay her some later BUT ONLY IF YOU CAN. Otherwise she needs to fully pay for the stroller, tell her you have no funds to give her toward the stroller at this time, accept it as a gift. I doubt she will take it back. It's important with family, inlaws etc to set healthy boundaires in your relations to begin with, so you don't have unexpected expenditures and leave no room for misunderstandings for the future. I'm sure she had the best of intentions but she's kind of butting into your budget without checking in, that's controlling. In the long run you will be happy you set a healthy boundary and just keep on setting boundaires so she gets that your a responsible person financially and that is taking care of your family.
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Not to be rude,but she's a b word,and i've had alot of problems w/her
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Then Girl what ever you do don't give her a dime! Keep the stroller and let her hold the weight of the expense.
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Wow...just rude. I'dd pay it and tell her to give a you a call in the future because you don't like paying for things sight unseen .
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Since it came from a garage sale, a couple of things...
One, make sure it is up to date enough to maintain current safety standards, and
Two, she may have felt it was a one time opportunity to get you a stroller at a good price when she knows you need one.
Giving her the benefit of the doubt, she probably thought she was doing you a favour. An earlier poster suggested telling her that there are no funds in your budget now to pay for it, and to tell her that you will pay her when you can... that seems a good approach.Like (1)
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Did she buy the stroller to help you? If she genuinely is trying to help, that makes it different from if she is trying to control you. Do you NEED a stroller? Had you said to her you wanted a stroller? If so, she may well be trying to help. But if you do NOT need or want a stroller, that makes it a very different story.
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Wow....just wow....
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tell her its not in your budget and unless shes going to give it to you then she should take it back.
dont you need one? because if its only for the principal that you dont want to pay her i think you should accept her offer.Like (1)
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Yes i need one,but in 3200$for my move and i can't afford it
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I need*
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Tell her thank you but not thank you,you are fine the ways things are.
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In laws are such a pain in the ***. Not having to deal with them is the best part of my divorce!
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No ****,has she lost her mind or what????
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Yeah, you basically need to give her the money and tell her to call you and make sure you are not buying the same thing next time. Make up some crap story about how you were so close to ordering one on amazon and what a disaster that would have been. You need tactics to fight this war.
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Tell her you don't like it and take it back.
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she got it at a garage sale,i don't think she can take it back
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How old are your children? Tell her you don't want a second hand pushchair/stroller. You did not ask her to buy it, she can't make you pay for it.
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Posted by Petrushka 1 Apr 14th, 2012 at 6:57PM
"Thank you mom, I need a stroller but at the moment I can't afford to buy one because I have no money to spare. I would have made do without until I could afford one. Since you didn't check with me if I have the money at hand, I am afraid you'll have to wait until I can afford to pay you back. Thanks for thinking of me."
How's that? It's polite, it's truthful, and if she had devious motives or who cares what, then it's backfired on her. And/or maybe it'll teach her not to meddle and get you in trouble (financially or otherwise).
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