Sounds like you need to move, you should be in college
I have shovels???....just saying...
sounds like she is depressed.
Has she always been like this? maybe she is going through menopause...if not perhaps it's time to leave the nest, nothing worse than being around toxic people.
Poor you, it's horrible and the right of passage for so many of us…you will cherish your life without her all the more. I love every peaceful moment without her now.