i too have felt like your mother...i know it's unreasonable but it makes me feel like i'm not good enough.
Maybe it's just a mother thing.
I guess you'll have confirmation when you are " the mother ".
Really, I'm a mother and NEVER felt that way. Naturally I felt sad that my baby-girl got her own life, but also proud; because it proved that we had brought her up to be free
yes really...when my daughter was in her mid teens..i sometimes felt like i was the enemy. I guess it was ...mum still making her toe the line....i wouldn't put up with teenage crap. Now she's nearly 19...and grown out of that phase.
Chose one thing you feel you could tell your mom and see how she reacts. She mite surprise you. It's my way of saying test the water first. She obviously loves you and care and worries about you. I guess you want to be part of your life and let you know she will always be around. Sometimes talking to a friend doesn't give you the right props but a mother do. My mom never criticised me, she always gave me good advices that none of my friends could. My trust in her is strong. Not all moms are like that but like I said, test the water first. Humour her and see what she is like. When you have a kid of your own, it'd renew your respects for your mom.
Are you still living with her?! Why?! I think that kids need to be on their own by 18 if not sooner. That's the problem, kids and parents are too dependent on each other in this day and age. Cut the cord. Live your own life. Then when you do spend time with your mum it will be fun, and you can choose to share things with her or not. Why do people stay in the nest so long these days? I was out at 15 and never looked back and I'm all the better for it. I nature animals know when to kick their offspring to the curb, why are we so emotionally dependent that we stifle children s growth by keeping them as children for too long.
To each their own I suppose, but it seems like a bit of a cop out.
Danagerbabe, Virgotheartyfarty is too young to leave home. I left home when I was 21, right age to leave home. The girl is still learning about life. Leave her alone!
Oh I am a mom by the way and I wouldn't want my son to leave until he is 21!
Sorry to hear about your mom's illness. You shouldn't be judged for living with your mom.
Not a cop out. She cares about her mom and wants to be around when needed. If she moves, she won't be able to check on mom a lot.
In my opinion 21 is too old. Period. But like I said that's my opinion. Everyone should have the right to do whatever they want, even if that means leeching off your parents well into adulthood.
she's your mom for life, tell her everything.
Be happy that she reacts that way,because those who don't ....don't care.
Be Good :)
Thats what parents do hahaha
you should not have to pat her back and ask her if she wants a juice-box until after your children are through college and into the workforce.
Been there, kid!
You have to take/provoke/face the issue! 'My mail is my personal mail, even when it's just advertisements and fliers. And not all I do is for the eyes of my mother!'
Once I had told her that, she became pat.
But why in the world do you use snailmail these days?