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crazywolf13 crazywolf13 16-17, F 21 Answers Dec 13, 2012 in Parenting & Family

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Not necessarily, perhaps one of them snores

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Not really. <br />
I know other couples who do this as well, and in my grandparents' case, it's because my grandma couldn't get a decent nights rest because of my grandpa's snoring, so she wanted her own room. lol

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Cool thank u :)

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as long as they are happy with it and otherwise tend to get along and care for each other no...

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Thanks :)

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Don't know your parents personal reasons, but it DOESN'T necessarily mean there is trouble in paradise. Parents bear a HUGE responsibility,raising a family,working,financial burdens,ect,& if you are unable to get a good nights sleep,you will struggle to meet the demands of daily stresses. Often times, couples disrupt each other sleep with snoring, restlessness, or getting up to use the bathroom. It seems perfectly understandable that your parents would have separate bedrooms due to their opposite work schedules. It's VERY difficult to work the night shift. I know cuz I worked the night shift for 20 years. You need to have uninterrupted sleep in order to do your job well. Try to put yourself in other people's shoes before you judge.

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Im sorry to b the bearer of bad news hun, but yes, its bad

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It depends on why they are doing it. Maybe one of them a light sleeper. Or there medical conditions that make it easier to sleep apart. How do they interact during the day time? Do they spend time with each other or spend most of their time apart? The best advice I would offer is to sit down with your mom or dad and ask her/him about it. Be polite and respectful in asking. Maybe your parents want to talk to you about it and don't know how to start the conversation off.

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Thank u :) and How would u ask them?

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Use an actionfeeling question. When you do ***, I feel ****. I would say, "Mom, I noticed that you and Dad are sleeping in separate bedrooms and it makes me feel uncertain about our family. Would you mind if I asked why you do that?"
Then let your mom (or dad) take the lead.

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Cool thank u so much

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How does it make you feel is the real question I want to ask? <br />
Do they give reasons to you why they do this?<br />
Do they love one another?<br />
You are old enough to know why. Ask them. Then return and ask more questions if need be.

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Makes me angry and I really don't know why
No I have to guess to why there doing it I've ask my mom before and she said cuz this is my room
My dad loves my mom but I don't think my mom loves my dad
I'm 16 so I think I am
Thanks for helping me :)

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Thank you for best answer, hon. I suggest you sit and talk with both of them together. Tell them exactly how you feel. Cause this is hurting you. And will affect how you feel perhaps with your boyfriends. Counselors can help you too. They can meet with you and/or your parents too. Social workers help. Get some. Take care. Hugsssssssssssssssss...........

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Thank you :) hugsssssssssssss back

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dont do that to your parents its no ones business outside of their own, me and my husband dont sleep in the same bed, and this started long before us hating eachother. it just means, the would prefer their space and love the kids they already have, and dont want anymore. its the most effective

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And how do your children feel? Do you think this does not effect them? She has the right to know...She is a young adult. You cannot speak for them. Only they can. And because they brought this girl into the world, this means they owe her honesty and truth and love. It is her business because they created her. And she lives under their roof. Ask your children how they feel. Sleeping separately while married is not normal. And your kids know it. So you cannot brush their concerns aside nor pretend it does not effect them. You are not loving them by ignoring the situation. So I suggest you grow up, BrighterDaze. Apparently your days are not so bright after all. And your kids know that.

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My parents do that too sometimes.My mom sometimes lays with my sister who is 8 instead .They just have always done that.

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Everyone need their own space, some people more than others, hopefully they are doing it for that reason.

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why bad? If they get along....wonderful!

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Not necessarily. Sometimes you just sleep better alone. ;-)

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Cool thank u :)

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Yes ..ESPECIALLY when you're fighting n not getting along

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Only if they try and push their beds together for "night time adult talk" !!!! would be abit nosiey!!!

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I guess you can feel good they are staying together for you and feel bad they didn't trust you with the truth of their relationship.

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No not really.Its been done for centuries..Having ones own space is never bad. Historically you only shared your bed if u were poor.

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I think it can be okay, as others said.

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Why do you sleep alone in separate bed room. Learn what is your business and what is their personal business. There will be many things parents do that do not involve you. However, if it does by all means ask why. Questions are cheap but the answer can cost you a headache.

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yes if your mum is in edinburgh and your dad is in london lol

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Maybe yes, maybe no---depends why

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I think its cuz my mom work at night and my dad work during the day but I'm not sure

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If they get along otherwise, I wouldn't worry too much.

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Thanks :)

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