My partner works 36 hours per week in a 2x18 hr shift pattern then has 5 days off , should i expect him to do housework?

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Posted by cooney55 1 Aug 20th, 2012 at 4:08PM

What is he, a fireman? No matter what the hours, the labor required to keep your lives together should fall on both people. Just be reasonable.. he should help to the extent that is fair, but you shouldn't be sitting and watching TV while he's at work, either. That's what teamwork in a relationship is all about; seamlessly working together to get everything done, so you can both go play! When the work is one-sided, it will always build resentment.

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Reply by gillian2012 Aug 20th, 2012 at 4:23PM

no he doesnt sit about , hes out on the golf course or playing games on pc ..... if i had 5 days off i would be out earning a second income or doing something useful ... its me that seems to be doing everything ggrrr
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Reply by cooney55 Aug 20th, 2012 at 4:29PM

Then things aren't distributed evenly, are they? Perhaps he thinks that if he provides the lion's share of the income, that alleviates him of household responsibility. It's perfectly reasonable to calmly point out that your contribution is just as real and important, and you deserve an equal share in the rewards. Don't let the resentment build up, and for heaven's sake don't ***** at him.. just be calm, but firm. You might need to simply make a "to do" list, and tell him that you expect him to hold up his end. He lives there too, right? A real man doesn't seek to possess a slave.
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Posted by simplysarah22 Aug 20th, 2012 at 4:05PM

if your not working then you shouldnt expect him to.

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Posted by azaliea Aug 20th, 2012 at 4:39PM

yes, if you are both working you should both pitch in with housework. It's only fair.

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Posted by chorusgirl Aug 20th, 2012 at 4:39PM

If you both work, you should share the chores. My husband and I both work 40-50 hours, each take care of our own laundry and take turns with dishes. He does the bills and I always cook. We hava a house cleaner that does all of the floor mopping/bathroom once a week.

If you have chosen to stay at home with kids, that's your choice. If household chores spill over 36 hours a week something is seriously wrong

This does not account "man chores" which are always a mans responsibility; such as changing lightbulbs and mowing the lawn.

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Posted by fatgirl77 Aug 20th, 2012 at 4:24PM

my landlord works friday saturday & sunday, & his wife doesn't work, she takes 3 classes a wk studying for her bachelor degree in psychology. he does the housework, yardwork, & cooking. she cleans up the dishes. from what i've observed, anyway.

but if it were my partner, if i worked full time too, then everything should be split equally.

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Posted by runningliberal Aug 20th, 2012 at 4:16PM

Give him two days after his two 18 hour shifts, then give him a honey do list that would take maybe an hour or two per day. You want him to have time to enjoy his time off, but he should contribute.

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Posted by reubles Aug 20th, 2012 at 4:08PM

yes, i work 42 hours a week 4 days a week and i still do chores. your hubby is a ***** if you as me. oh, and i work with a clearing saw strapped to my back.

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Posted by pinkgodslippers Aug 20th, 2012 at 4:07PM

Hell no, he need to find some work the rest of the week so you can do the housework and not have him in the way.

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Posted by Pumpkinseeds Aug 20th, 2012 at 4:07PM

Yes you should. Even if he didn't have 5 days off he should help around the house because it is his home too and, you don't want him to just expect you to do everything.

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Posted by driver150013 Aug 20th, 2012 at 4:06PM

if you have no kids and no job if your house work extends pass 36 hours, why not

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Posted by pennys1085 Aug 20th, 2012 at 4:05PM

I think I would give him a day off from house work after those long shifts but yeah totally after that, he needs to help out too

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Posted by phillyphan78 Aug 20th, 2012 at 4:05PM

Yes, he lives there too.

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