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madadali madadali 26-30, M 10 Answers Jan 15, 2013 in Emotional Health

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I know this sounds wacky but try it. It works.



Visualize your insecurity as a separate being. Put all of your fears about such an encounter into that being, and imagine it embodies all of the shortcomings that could cause a bad outcome. Spend a minute or two fleshing it out - if your insecurities and fears were a creature, what would it look like? Is it male or female? Is it human? How would it move? What would its voice sound like? etc. until you've had enough of that bit. Then imagine yourself embracing this creature and telling it that it's okay you'll cover for it. THEN when you're actually talking to whoever it is that makes you nervous, project all your nervousness onto this imaginary creature or person and imagine that they're right beside you, but you're the front man. You have none of those fears and insecurities because that's what the projected creature is for. They belong to it, not you, it's job is to feel all of that so you don't have to.



Don't worry if the visualization seems silly or your imagination doesn't really give it life in your mind's eye. Even a half-assed version of this helps.

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It's best to spend some time far in advance of any encounter doing the visualization. Do it at night as you're falling asleep or first thing in the morning as you're waking up. Then remind yourself whenever you feel the anxiety that the imaginary creature - your shadowself - is the one that's feeling it, not you.

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your chi :)

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lol it doesn't matter what you call it. it is what it is.

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Try and get a new job then re-invent yourself as a confident person.

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"re-invent yourself" was spot on I'd say. I'll drink to that!

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Simple. Stop talking to your boss.

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LMFAO!

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whosoever made you feel that your worth lies in the outside of you has long left you......the question is what is the need to pursue the idea yourself

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The SSRIs like Paxil work to help social anxiety. They have helped me a lot. I don't feel any anxiety talking to people anymore. Beta blockers like Propranalol help with panic attacks. Talk to your doctor about what's best for you.

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You have to work on your self-esteem... also try picturing your boss in his underwear, it'll make him seem less intimidating. :-)

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easy answer, you have no self-confidence.

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