My sister used to do that too. I finally decided that she might be doing it because I kept allowing her to.
I just told her that I loved her but she needed to grow up and be responsible for her own actions. It really helped her ... she did fine when she didn't always have an easy safety net.
We can be there for people .. but we do them no service giving them the impression that they don't have consequences to their bad choices.
will you life be better without a sister?
i know how you feel. I am the middle child in a family of 5. So i always have to make sure the 2 before me and the 2 after me are all in line. I would rather have them with all the problems than to loose any of them to death. So, seek the good and appreciate them no matter how difficult it might be. And dont forget to breath :)
Which brings us to your question.
Does she come to you for financial help? What exactly does she do?
Wow, that's bad news.
Sounds like you may have to give her an ultimatum.
I hope it works out. That's a really tough situation.
I'm sorry to hear about your mom. :-(