My son is 8, he has a.d.h.d, asperger,s and o.d.d, he is suicidal, and has tried 2 kill himself, wot do i do?

My son was seriously ill in hi toddler years and by age 5 was praying to God to kill him.

Everyone said he was too young to know what suicide was.

My church got me an appointment with a child PSYCHOLOGIST....and when she worked with him, she was crying.

She told me he not only knew what suicide was BUT he also had 2 methods worked out !

It turned out he couldn't take the hospital any more....

She advised me to look for alternative treatment because one way or another the doctors were going to kill him.

He is still alive 15 years later thanks to her advice.

GO TAKE HIM TO A CHILD PSYCHOLOGIST we only had one visit to nail it.

I don't have any magical advice I'm afraid, just wanted to say that my heart goes out to you. Definitely seek as much professional help as you can. If there was an obvious trigger then it might be easier to tackle, but either way get as much help as you can - doctors, school, social services, referral...good luck xxx

I'm usually against medicating children, but when it's a matter of life & death, I concure with those who suggest a child psychologist and a good psychiatrist working closely with that person.
Listen to your child closely and have someone with them at all times. Suicide watch is what hospitals do and worth it for you even if you have to pay someone to give you a hand.
Children & adults alike don't contemplate suicide for no reason. Establish trust with him. Medical professionals can help, but you as a mother will affect his condition the most.
He needs to feel as if there's something more important to live for than to die for. Tip that suicide scale to 51% on the side of "wants to live" and then work from there.
Above all...though it may be very difficult, do not blame yourself or become emotional in his presence. He needs to know that someone is in control, because even at 8 he can understand that he's not.
Get him involved in activities that are fun and therapeutic. I would think that activities that allow him to be in control would be good. Something that makes him feel that he has the reins and that will fixate him on positive achievement rather than negative. Is he physically capable of kayaking or canoeing? Canoeing may be good if he's allowed to steer as this gives him the reins, but yet creates a need for teamwork. Survival camps are also very good. The kids are put out there with extreme conditions, but also extreme supervision.
Here is a link to one I've heard of that has had very good outcomes for children with similar afflictions.
This would also allow YOU to have a few minutes of peace and reprieve. It will allow you to regroup and change your approach.
If he comes home to a different you and he also has different thoughts to focus on, you may be on your way to change.
You will have to work hard to change your own behaviors so that when he returns home you can grow together.
Last....find something to involve him in after returning home that is similar. Let the experience seem ongoing.
I will keep you in my thoughts. I don't believe that all doctors have our best interest at heart. It's not that I think they're out to get us or anything like that, it's just that I think many are simply just at work. In your situation it become ever more important to have someone who's dedicated to helping the children they treat....not simply medicating them and sending them on their merry way.
Stay strong mom! You CAN do this!

I do understand! MissBebe is right with her suggestions. My husband's 30 year old daughter has Aspergers, adhd and ocd. Having a child with these disorders can be very draining for the parent. Just remember to take some time for yourself. BIGG HUGGS

This is a situation that many find themselves in. I myself have a daughter who has these things. I did not ever think she would grow up without being murdered or locked up in prison. She still won't get help and she is 23. I think that our society does not really know how bad it is. Everyone has their hands in the pot trying to get money for this or that. If this situation with children is not addressed and taken seriously, I fear that horrible things will happen to them, through no fault of their own. Get help for YOURSELF. That was the only way I made ;it through.

Get him 24 hour help when the threat is imminent. He may be feeling psychotic from stimulants if he is on it though, children with any form of ASD seem more susceptible to that side effect. Get him help, inpatient until he is stable but love him every minute of every day. There is help and hope out there as long as you do something about it now. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

I suspect the authenticity of this question. How does an 8-year old attempt suicide?

dear friend, i am so sorry that you are struggling with such hardships for your son. it is important that a) you do not give up hope and b) that you find a VERY good specialist in these areas. your pediatrician MAY be able to refer you to someone, but i would also do some research on your own. the idea of your child needing medication may be frightening but if it seems like that (along with some very caring therapy and specialized training) will help, then please accept these therapies. you could also speak with the child study team at his school-- they may be knowledgeable about other child psychologists/psychiatrists/specialists in your area. also, maybe inquire about a support group for parents of children with emotional/developmental disorders. sometimes listening to other people's stories can give you hope and perhaps they can recommend someone that they know. best of luck to you!

Miss Bebe got it. Good luck - very tough.

My heart breaks for you and your sob. Please find as much professional help as fast as you can. If there is a teaching hospital/medical school anywhere near you try that. You probably need at least three specialists to cope with all this, plus someone just for you to talk to. I've known children with just two of the things that you mentioned, and that is complicated enough. Ignore the people who say no medication for your child. Medication and some special kinds of therapy will keep him alive till he can cope better himself with the therapy. Children younger than he have attempted and succeed at suicide -- they are so desperate.

With professional help and patience, he can learn to cope and grow into a productive adult who understands his situation. But you can't do it alone.

Hello, that's a tough situation you have going on there. I would agree with the advice to seek help from professionals as your first port of call. I would also take extra special care over what your son is eating and not give him anything that has additives in. Try to limit unrefined sugar and caffine too cause in my view, they are certainly not going to help. I understand you have to take each day as it comes but if you can, maybe it will help to try and keep his mind as active as possible and give him positive things to focus on, if he is likely to get freaked out by too many people around him then keep it to just the two of you, maybe go for a walk in a forest or go swimming at a time when you know it will be quieter. Physical activity is known to produce endorphins which make people feel brighter so it might help. A friend of mine who is also a foster carer, deals only with very traumatised kids and instead of time out, she does a lot of "time in" with her kids. She will hold them and speak softly to them, one tactic I know she uses if they are trying to hurt themselves is to give them ice cubes to hold. I've been told that helps.
You know your son the best though so follow your instincts. He sounds like he needs a lot of love, care and attention at the moment which is really draining so don't forget, it is really important that you look after yourself too. Don't feel guilty about making some time for yourself to have a hot bath or whatever cause if you neglect your own care and needs you will be no use to you son before too long.
I really hope you find the support you need with this and I wish you all the luck in the world to get it sorted. x

I'm sorry to hear about your pain :[
I really think you should seek professional help WITH your son. Cause it's not only him that's suffering, you're being affected too. And what's better than more support, with you knowing how to deal with such circumstances.
My nephew has been said to have aspergers and for his family it's been a total lifestyle change. Unlike other children, you can't tell them off as much and unfortunately the mother just has to let him run amuck sometimes because he doesn't have the capability to understand otherwise. He is on certain medication which helps alot.. but if that's missed by even an hour, it's chaos.
I would try sitting down with your son, even possibly other family members too.. a father, an aunty or even good friend so that he can get another perspective on things.
And sometimes kids don't wanna face their parents because it's a controlling relationship. Where as he might just need a friend to talk to.
Anyways.. talk to him, or someone else. Find out what is troubling him (i know his sicknesses ofcourse) but maybe there is underlying factors. Is he getting teased? Is he coping at school? Does he have friends?
Also, fight and fight as much as you can for him. Don't settle for any less than what you need. Which is to find a way out of this. To find some therapy, whether it be medication or psychology. Go to an aspergers specialist. Don't let your doctors tell you they can't do anything.. don't let them fob you off with some answer about 'take this medication and go home'. He will need regularly checkups & support. Don't settle for less. He needs you to fight for him.
I hope this helps you. xoxo

my nephew has aspergers, I would get him mediacl treatment for depression, and I would treat him kind, people with aspergers are not unable to think for themselves so treat him like any other 8 year old that has depression and obbsessive dissorders, hang on because until they find the right combination of meds it's going to be bumpy on this journey

I'm not going to pretend I know all the answers, but I do disagree with Robyn1972. There is a difference between showing mild symptoms and it not affecting your life compared to showing warning signs of disorders that make your life unbearable. I am a psychology major and I know for the most part what Aspergers, Oppositional defiant disorder and ADHD are, and I understand that the combination of the three would be troublesome to you as the parent. My first question is: Has he been to a doctor for these disorders? Psychiatrists aren't just for the patients, but also for the parents. If you ask them what would be the best thing for you to do, they should help you. When he tried to kill himself, was he in a hospital afterward? Suicidality is nothing to fool around with, and hospitals aren't what they used to be. Usually they offer family therapy as well. I think a lot of your questions could be answered at a NAMI (National Alliance on Mental Illness) class, where you could find people in your situation, or ask the leader for their advice. In the mean time, make sure he knows you love him and try to take care of your own mental health.

Sometimes, medication is necessary....Robyn...no offense, but you advice seems very irresponsible to me.....

If it were my son, I'm not going to just sit by, and do nothing, hoping he'll grow out of it....

Find a child Psychiatrist....they can dispense prescriptions, if he needs it...and if he's suicidal...go to your nearest emergency room....they can admit him, and monitor him, until he gets stable....

I am so sorry you have to deal with this at all....As a mother, I can imagine you anguish....I will be praying for you and your son.