Have your local policeman just have a talk with him about what happens to kids that steal...Worked for my son...But he was 5...lol
Mine didn't taught him a lesson
um, yea, that'd be a risk I'd be willing to take considering he's STEALING. Hmmm, have my son be mad at me for a couple weeks or have him in juvey for heisting electronics from Best Buy. Hard choice.
This is true
Youve got to address it with him and then inflict some kind off punishment. <br />
You have to sit him down and say > taking things that do not belong to you <br />
is no right. You have to be clear that you know he took the money and that it <br />
is not right and then you need to inflict punishment for that behaivor. <br />
I would maybe think about making him work to pay the money back. <br />
that will teach him the value of things. I would find something for him <br />
to do > manual labor that he needs to do for a couple weeks to pay the money <br />
back. Maybe you can make him clean the house, clean the car, mow the lawn or whatever you can find for him to do and make him do enough of that to pay off the 100 dollars. I also after he works off the money > make him write a letter of apology. I also would remind him that stealing is against the law and that <br />
he could go to jail for it. You might even want to have a police officer talk <br />
to him and put a scare into him. Like a little scared straight episode. <br />
You know. Like remind him that there are people who are in jail for stealing <br />
and that being is jail is no picnic.
Whoop his *** or send him to scared straight!! Lol!! But in all seriousness you can talk to community outreach and send.him to community service or a sanctuary for a while until he get his act together. Teach Tough Love!!
You have lots of responses here, and I didn't read through them.<br />
But in a nutshell:<br />
Any misbehavior needs a consequence. Your son will soon be 18 - an adult.<br />
He's stealing. He needs a consequence for his actions, the least of which should be paying back any money he has already spent. If that means getting a job then, so be it.<br />
You hate confrontation. Sorry, but for the sake of your son's future, this has to be confronted in a big way. He's stealing from his family! He's too old for this. This is not a harmless mistake. Without a consequence, this behavior gets "rewarded", and he'll probably keep stealing. He'll soon be an adult who cheats to get what he wants, and will possibly end up with police and legal problems.<br />
It's your responsibility to take control here. Find an appropriate consequence such as paying it all back, taking away the car for 6 months, something big, and you MUST<br />
stick with it. <br />
Seeking advice from school guidance counselor, or other sources is necessary for the drug issue. Addiction may be right around the corner for him, and that addiction can cost him his health, let alone his life. Someone who is trained in the field can help nip this in the bud as quickly as possible. <br />
I urge you to get some good people on your side, and be very firm and proactive, before it's too late.
Stealing, much like lying, are just symptoms of something that he's hiding or apparrently he's ashamed of...without all or more facts about his circumstances, all we can do at this point is to speculate "why" he is doing this...[like hard times, no job, living conditions, drugs, girl problems, bullying, klepto-isms, peer pressure, etc,...] ...how to deal with this concern is directly related to these prior conditions...we all know it is wrong!...wrong is wrong and needs to be addressed as such---he probably knows for sure this is wrong---He's BUSTED---now ..one way or another...kick his ***!!! [that was no help...] :(
tell him that you know and have a talk with him. Ask him what he's been taking the money for. i hope its not drugs otherwise he would have just asked you for the money. I used to do that, but i had a compulsive issue. I dont have a reason but i just needed the rush i got from doing it. I went to therapy.
1. Does he know that you know?<br />
If yes, talk to him about what he needed the money for. Ask him if he feels he needs a bigger allowance. Help him find a job. And of course, find a punishment that is suitable for the crime...aka making him earn that money he took by washing his sister's car every weekend for a month or take away his social life for two weeks and put him on restrictions.<br />
If no, give him the chance to fess up to it by telling him that his sister's missing money. Ask him if any of his friends would do that sort of thing. If he confesses, take the steps above. If he doesn't confess, I'd set him up to do it again and then the punishments would be harsher.<br />
The main focus for me would be to find out why he needs so much money and also why my daughter has $100 in her wallet. She needs a savings account. I'd also make a point not to have cash in my own wallet and also lock my purse in my bedroom.
It's important for you to remove the temptation for him.<br />
Lock your purses/wallets away securely on entering, (I know it sounds mad in your own home), let him know you are doing this.<br />
I had to do this with my daughter, it worked for me, hope it helps :)
whip his *** and make him admit to doing it...
You must slap him atleast once. Give that a go. Then explain to him about how hard it is to actually be saving up money and how annoying it is when thas stolen. <br />
Finally, find a suitable place where he can gain work experience, like a charity shop. If he refuses to do that I think asking him to pay for rent (if he lives with you) is in order. <br />
I KNOW he's not gonna be paid for charity but it'll still give him a good lesson of hard work and a decent living. Rest is up to you.
Going Sharia and chopping off his hand probably isn't an option, is it?
I used to take small amounts of change from my parents and brother when I was younger. Somehow I grew closer to my family and realized that they where there to help me with whatever I want, Money is not what I want... I feel like scum looking back at it and now it seems I am the one giving and avoid taking anything from anyone. thievery is dirty and somehow you need to get this across to him.
Like we'z do in Russia, chop iz hands off.
cook him lol
check his habits and confront him on this talk to him
my son (who had A LOT of problems) did this to us to the tune of thousands of dollars with the debit card....<br />
he had therapy for years and is better now.<br />
we had a lot of discussions about the moral issue of it and let him now how horribly it impacted the family.<br />
If you know it's him. You NEED to lay down the law now or he will walk all over your authority for the rest of his adolescence. Confront him about it, give him a chance to explain why he stole it and what he needed the more for. Then punish him accordingly.