Therapy isn't something that you just walk in with a list of problems, talk about them, and then you're "fixed"and done, though that's what I first thought too. First you build on coping skills and things like that. You work on how to have boundaries, and deal with people in every day life. Then as you work on that you find more and more things you work on. It's not all you, and in the beginning you may not be talking that much. But you definitely will have input. That being said, you may have a crappy therapist. You should have someone you feel comfortable with. Maybe you should try asking for a different one if you two don't get along. But if she's ok, why not try to relax and take her cues on where she's going with the sessions. It's not an in and out type deal.
Oh wow, I don't know if I could stand a therapist like that. I've had several but my favorite was a woman who didn't seem to to be too overly sympathetic or sickeningly caring, which I really liked because I really cannot stand people acting like they feel sorry for me, especially when that's not what I'm there for. She was super honest and up front, even about things that hurt my feelings (but were true). Nothing seemed to shock her, she just took what I said and turned it into something I could use to help me. I would look into a new one if I were you. If it's a place that has several therapists you can just asked to be changed.
And starting all over I'm sure feels over whelming, but how can you get anywhere with someone you don't like? If you find someone who can help, even if it takes time, it's worth it.
I've never cried or anything in front of any of my therapists. I really don't think just the talking helps, but if you talk eventually problems that you have will come up. Sometimes I didn't see the problem and my therapist did. From that we'd find why something upset me, and see if we could fix that. Some things are just ******, and they'll always make you upset, but you can learn to cope with the feelings, and make yourself more stable. I had several throughout my life, some I had to have, and some I sought out on my own. Most of the earlier ones, I didn't want to talk, and sometimes couldn't talk at all. I'd just sit there and I'd answer a short question if I had to. I remember having a guy before, and he started out looking over my paperwork, and trying to talk about it, which made me uncomfortable, and then he'd ask some ****** questions like "can you tell me about an event that upsets you most" and at that point I wouldn't even talk.. My favorite therapist started out with asking how I get along with people, how I got along with my family. How I react to stuff. It turns out I had a lot of problems with communicating, but the way to work on that wasn't asking me to relive bad stories.
And I'm sorry for writing novels as comments, haha. I just get carried away.
bill her double what she charges you
yeah a therapist should not talk that much.... just ask the right questions...
ah she or he should just be there to let you talk and from time to time ask you the right questions to guide you so you start thinking about waht you just said in a new way, that's the point of it. That's what I meant.
I think you should switch therapist.
Shut the hell up?
Doesn't work that way
The reality of therapy and change is that you are the only one who can change you whatever the issue. The therapists job is to take you to a mental place where you are aware of yourself enough to help that change take place slowly - and all the while it you reshaping you
Receive the meds even if don't want to take them..I might even pay you for them to help me get through my work days - lol
Not my job as much as the place - it's mentally unhealthy
Sounds easy - but there's not much out there anymore doing what I do. Next question is what that is - I'll only say I'm a dinosaur in the electronics manufacturing industry.