Pray harder!! with God nothing is impossible...start putting your hands up and surrender all your worries and anxiety to God...even for a day.. May God give an open mind, clean spirit and Godly decision to overcome your short comings...--God loves you my dear!
no im not telling you to shut up dear... your action will be doubled if you will include your whisper to that empty sky...Good luck and may you have the best job and opportunity in this world....You can make it!!!!
I may be wrong in the way I am thinking. I am in the UK and not sure where you are from or if things are different but there is no way in the world that I would let someone unregistered (other than close family) ever take care of my children. Its our job to do what is best for our children. If it was me I wouldnt have put in the clause about being hurt I would have said no unlicensed day care full stop.
No matter what I think you need to speak to a lawyer rather than ask advice here
I read what you said about being in a small place etc. If he is only allowed supervised access then he would have difficulty getting full custody. Is there work in your area. If not maybe look into getting licensed daycare in the area you can get work. Over here if daycare isnt registered it is not legal and can result in prosecution or being investigated for putting your own child at risk. Just make sure licensed or unlicensed you ask around and talk to other people that have had their children looked after there. Make sure you have as much information on places as you possibly can
Since the order was set by the Judge you might not worry so much about this as the Judges don't just give away all the coustody to the father for things that come up like that. He has to have a hell of a lot more than that for the Judge to give him total coustody. I say don't worry. I have just ended a case with my daughter where her ex fought with a stronger case than that and no way does the Judges take the child away from the Mother. her husband threatens this all the time. Mother and son belong together and that's that unless there is real abuse going on. Be Strong , Be Happy!
You said he signed the custody order without the clause and the judge approved it. So why are you worried? The law don't give 2 ***** about what it SAID it is all about the paper, and on paper you are good to go, so do as you will.
Basically, if he wants to raise a stink, he can take you to court over just about anything, even if it turns out to be unfounded.
this is NOT the place to seek legal advice. Laws vary state to state and judge to judge.
Its always better to err on the side of caution, put her in a licensed (and insured) facility.
Mind you, some churches run daycare facilities and they are not typically licensed. The Y also runs daycare in some areas.
You need to go to an ATTORNEY !! There ARE legal aid attorneys or even social services can recommend one for you .... Get you help the legal way so you are on solid ground .... Do it ASAP !!
Why would you want to put her in to an unlicenced day care facility - she surely is the most precious thing in your life - why take the risk of her not being properly cared for - at least you know that licensed facilities have had to reach a certain standard to get their licence in the first place..
I understand that, it sounds like you've had it tough - couldn't you get a family member to look after her or share childcare with a friend... or ask your ex to contribute to the cost too
I'm not sure where you live, but could you set yourself up as a childminder - that way you could stay at home, take care of your daughter and get paid to look after other peoples children too - or if that's not an option how about looking at other ways of working from home. Try not to feel hopeless, there is always a solution, we just have to find it...
I really do hope you get it... you know there's probably loads of skills that you have that could help you work from home..
I will keep my fingers crossed for you!
Im not sure about the laws wher you live, but if it was me, Id be covering my arse on all basis by making sure he cant come back at me for anything. Is there anyway he can pay more for childcare so you can put her in a licensed one? Does he work? If he does you should be okay to work as well, if he doesnt he may tell the judge that he can look after her becasue he isnt working. It does take a while to get things through court processes anyway. Your daughter could have got hurt in a licensed daycare, why is he being such a pain in the butt?
If he is only allowed supervised visits, then it sounds like he would have a hard time convincing a judge of anything. Talk to your lawyer they would know more than I do. he is probably being painful because he still wants to control you somehow.
Do they have a free legal advice telephone call centre where you are? Or the other option is a Womens community centre, they usually have legal advice consultants as well.
Call the lawyer.