No one supports me emotionally so I fired my friends. They apologized but still don't help me.How might I find new ones?
4 Answers to "No one supports me emotionally so I fired my friends. They apologized but still don't help me.How might I find new ones?"
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try local support groups or get involved in community projects. In my personal experience doing this has helped me a great deal, making new friends who have similar issues etc. It probably wasn't the brightest idea to "fire" the friends you already have. As people can often help in other ways, I learnt that the hard way! Relying on friends and family for emotional support rarely works because so many have their own emotional **** to deal with. And some are just plain selfish. Don't know if that'll help you.
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i hope you support your friends emotionally too. i've found that the ones who do can lean on me for the same thing. if i am not emotionally available enough i get ditched so it's only fair. try to be the friends you want to attract, it really works.
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The same thing happened to me!! We should make a group "I fired friends because they weren't emotionally supportive" And mine apologized too but never changed, so I just ditched them. Avoided them. Completely. They got the hint~ I spent the next year and a halfdating mostly, but with an occasional friend group... Drifting mostly.
Then... A few months ago.... I met new people! REAL FRIENDS and they are kind and caring and wonderful.
One, I just saw one day sitting alone, I liked the way they looked and dressed (very expressive) and I thought I might like them. I asked if I could sit with them, they said "yes" and we have been very good friends ever since :)
SO from that experience, I will say be open- Real friends are out there, it will just take you some journeying to meet them. I'm happy you ditched the others- It will be one of the best choices you'll have made for yourself..... *PEACE* and *thumbs up*Like (1)
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Good to know I'm not the first and that it worked out for you! I've been the best friend I could to these people, lots of time and energy and effort. I have always been there when they needed me but when I need them... I'm too inconvenient. I hold that they are nice people but terrible friends. Really all that has changed since firing them is that I am no longer expecting or hoping for help from them. Tiny power trip but still not getting what I need... Glad to hear someone has made this work!
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Yes, It was really worst like... If I needed them- Them not being there often hurt worse then why I needed them in the first place. And with my fired "friends"- I think they just don't know how to show affection... And I don't hold a grudge or anything... Only knowledge that I need affection and they don't have it. Anyways~ I am totally feeling for you!! And was surprised to see your experience! WOW
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Posted by BamPow Dec 29th, 2011 at 11:06PM
Don't use the old friends as references when applying for the new ones.
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Reply by toosoftlyspoken Dec 29th, 2011 at 11:15PM
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