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As well as here mine. I must throw this out. many years ago. A good woman told me why she was in a happy Marriage. It was at that time not what I wanted. She told me I was in a sex addicted marriage. I asked her whats so good about hers. Her reply was he listens to her feelings without trying to fix or change them as she does to his. Wow That was 15 years ago. I thought how boring. And today Thats just what I want. With some fun and well lets say 2x a week sex?... But feelings are important to me today. Took many years of work to feel. And I MUST have that in a relationship

Just to throw it out there... nearly everyone can 'express' their feelings. That doesn't mean they can communicate well... a scream in the night expresses that you are unhappy, but doesn't really give anyone information that might help you out. Just my two cents... go for 'must be able and willing to communicate openly and honestly in an adult fashion'.