Ok I know the obvious answer but ..Now Ive been with a guy that Lies and lies and lies but i love him, and its simple
stupid lies over stupid things but it seems like everytime I ask him something I catch him in a lie again...He doesnt get why im angry. I know the obvious thing to do is break up but any other advice.
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Posted by ragewomble Dec 31st, 2011 at 4:01PM
dump the lying retard, you deserve better.
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Posted by aleexelizabeth Dec 31st, 2011 at 5:01PM
The people telling you that it's a stupid question because you already know the answer, are wrong and clearly haven't been in love. It is an obvious answer but it's not so simple just to leave someone you love. You do need to leave him if he is hurting you with his lies, you deserve a better man. He does not respect you enough if he continues to lie knowing it hurts you. A liar doesn't know the difference between a white lie and a big lie. Don't wait for it to be a big lie. Besides, if you don't leave him, you'll never find a man that will treat you better!
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Posted by BuckarooBonzai Dec 31st, 2011 at 4:33PM
Then why ask?
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Posted by hlpflwthat Dec 31st, 2011 at 3:58PM
If it ain' right, it can only be ....
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Reply by shannonymous Dec 31st, 2011 at 6:52PM
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Posted by kimdrum Oct 28th, 2012 at 11:15PM
you have spoke with him right! well theirs no trust or foundation than ! would you trust him with your paycheck and to hold a savings account? well i think finding a boy toy would be in the mix! so if he is telling you he loves you and he cares for you blah,blah,blah stuff and you say all he does is lie to you well than your being used dear sorry the answer is boy toy time ... wanna date!lol
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Posted by lovemylabpnut Jun 3rd, 2012 at 8:26PM
Ok, having been there for 15 years I talk from experience. I married 13 years ago and before I had, my grandmother told me that if he can lie about the little things now (14 yrs ago) then he will lie about larger things as time goes on.
8 years ago was his first affair, never knew about it, two more were to follow. He had lied about jobs and reasons he lost them or what he was actually doing such as not actually working when he said he was. lies that nearly lost the roof over my head.
forward to the past two years since they are the freshest in my mind. started school after he lost a job. never held one more than 2 yrs. He has started the first of many affairs 3 weeks into school. i found out about it 4 months later thought that it was done and he was going to be honest with me and change. following that affair he had 3 more and I caught him with the 4th one. he lied to the many women that his wife died several different ways. even told others, other stories. forward to february 2012 and a fellow student noticed his wedding band and said "oh your married" ya recently. i was 4 feet behind him when I heard this and confronted him once I was over my siezure he caused thanks to the stress from the lie. I finally told him a month later I was done and wanted a divorce. it was in April that I then filed and had him give me what I wanted in writing.
Since filing he has continued to lie to me even when I have proof of the lies. he continued to lie to other women and was caught in it and she found out and gave him the cold shoulder. I also found out that he was messing with another gal for the last year and a half just because he could control the situation and make her feel good so he felt good.
Now my thoughts...I should never have married this man. He ruined my life in many ways because I had to cover his lies with family. Is this the life you really want for yourself? Are you not worth the truth? Being scared of being alone isn't a reason to not loose this looser. trust me, I am happier beign alone. It's hard but I am happy.
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Posted by pinkgodslippers Dec 31st, 2011 at 4:12PM
you might as well have fun with him before cutting him loose. What he needs is a taste of his own medicine and that would be a fat lie to choke on. I would start with I think I'm a Lesbian and I want to get a job as a ********. That will mess his brains to mush. Oh we men hate rejection on any playing field, you have got to hit him hard and make him feel it. Walk off when talking with him and make a call to a friend ignoring him will drive him crazy. Say I love you to anyone on the phone even the pizza deliver place will make him jealous and ask about his cute friend. Find a man that appreciates you and hopefully you will be loved for who you are.
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Posted by Bear1956 Dec 31st, 2011 at 4:09PM
Lose him. You deserve better than to be lied to constantly.
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Posted by TrustIsEarned Dec 31st, 2011 at 4:09PM
Enjoy what you do have with him until his lying really hurts you???
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Ok,... sorry for the sarcastic answer... I wasn't actually suggesting that you stay with this person. I'm not here to be an ***, and had assumed that everyone would read the answer I gave with the same level of sarcastic wit with which it was written. I apologize.
The real answer to this dilemma is one you already know and you say as much in your own question. You can't stay with this person. You know that already. I think what you hope for, is an answer that will help you inspire him to start telling the truth. He never will. Why does he lie? Why won't he understand? These are not matters for you to unravel, no matter how much you care for him. He's never going to be what you need, even if he has the capacity and the desire to grow beyond this destructive and life-limiting behavior. When I put, "enjoy what you do have" I was being partly facetious. You know you need to end things, don't make it more than it is. You need someone you can trust. When real disaster and crisis strikes, because life is like that, you need to know that you can trust this person with your life--that his words are his bond and are unbreakable. You know you don't have that. End it while there ISN'T a crisis, when you have only the break-up to deal with. It'll be much harder if you wait for something bad to happen, because then you'll be dealing with the break up and the crisis.
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Reply by aesgard Dec 31st, 2011 at 4:01PM
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Reply by TrustIsEarned Dec 31st, 2011 at 4:02PM
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Posted by tonpas Dec 31st, 2011 at 3:59PM
no if you love him stay with him else youll be heartbroken
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Reply by ragewomble Dec 31st, 2011 at 4:03PM
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Reply by tonpas Dec 31st, 2011 at 4:06PM
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Posted by aesgard Dec 31st, 2011 at 3:57PM
sure, don't be an idiot.
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