Ok ugly laundry out- I have decided I am arrogant and I don't want to be anymore?

One thing that helps me overcome arrogant patterns: I find facets of others that mirror facets of myself and use those to imagine that I'm watching myself perform whatever actions they may be performing. So if I'm watching a person sack groceries or park their expensive car or shout at their children, I visualize that I'm that person. I try to go beyond just passively imagining it and I project my visualization so that I see it. I tend to make my focus swim a bit.

This creates a deeper empathy with others and their situations, and it shows me that no matter how different all the aspects of our lives are, we are all in the same boat - born into a confusing world, making our way forward with only clues and best guesses to guide us.

Strangely enough, it also helps me to remember that the people around me also do things like strain on the toilet or deal with unusual body odors or wipe boogers under the car seat... I find that judgmental patterns arise in myself due to my own feelings of insecurity, and remembering that we share the color of foibles and idiosyncrasies evens it all out....

find a mentor and copy their ways and learn from them. I think you are on your way..don't give up on your goal.

If your gonna stop being judgemental does that mean I have to wait six months to win a trophy here?

Arrogance can be as contagious as a smile! Good for you for breaking that cycle. I'm sure you'll feel much better now just don't get to hard on yourself. Remeber that it's very humbleing to apologize. Just don't cut yourself short, you were smart enough to catch yourself being that way :) my faith is now renewed. Thank you for posting this!

Well ---- admitting the problem is half the battle. I'd say you are well on your way to licking it! Advice? I guess just remember that everyone has flaws and makes mistakes ... so be patient, gentle, and understanding with others. I find it helps if I can find out more about a person - where they came from - their experiences in life .... it usually helps me to see why they have done (or do) the things they have. I think we are all basically just trying to do the best we can to cope with life ... some days we do better than others. No one is really better than anyone else ... we just have better moments at times is all. Good luck.

coming to that realization means you've already reduced some of your arrogance.

I've realized judgments in myself before, and to a certain extent, I'm aware of some tendencies I have now. Just don't go too overboard with the shame- realizing that you have some qualities which you could perceive as negative doesn't mean that you're a bad person, it just means that you have an unfavorable quality that you'd like to change. Don't just shift the judgment from other people to yourself- when you work on acceptance, include yourself in that acceptance also.

Get an arrogance detector. Recognise when you're being arrogant. You might need a buddy to tip you off unless you recognise it yourself (sounds like you're on the way there though). Put a rubber band on your wrist and PING yourself when your new arrogance alarm goes off. You might not even need the rubber band and can just mentally ping yourself (you'll start doing that anyway) but it's a symbol that'll be there to remind you to work at not being arrogant. That's just my little idea anyway. You should let me know how it goes (:

Recognizing anything that you want to change is the most important step to getting there. Are you sure you are arrogant? Or, do you just hate stupid people?

it can be a hard thing to do judging others, or rather NOT judging others. I think imaginable said it best though. Look at what you hate in others as a reflection of yourself. It is hard to do though when the world is full of negativity. You may be like me and notice it more than others and it bothers you. That doesn't make you arrogant or judgemental it just makes you aware. This world is getting more negative and people are becoming more hostile. You don't encounter the politeness or friendliness on a day to day basis that you once did. So maybe you just notice that. However, if you have been the one dishing out this behaviour, it is nice to see that you recognize this in yourself and want to change it, to become a better person and that in itself is a really great thing! too bad more people couldn't wake up and see this in themselves!