Okay my husband will be home tomorrow, do I find somewhere to be or stay home and get screamed at?

After reading your question, and before I would answer, I went to your stories and blogs. Your husband doesn't sound like a bad guy. He hasn't asked for a divorce even though there has been no physical contact for several years. It sounds like he loves you or did at one time. Since he's a truck driver and isn't home much, when he is, if he still cares, I can understand why he wants you around. It's a sad situation for you both. On the other hand, I'm not being mean when I say this, but you have trouble making any connections from family, siblings, parents, stepsons, husband. The only connection I saw you display feelings for was an animal that died. I truly hope you can seek help; if one therapist doesn't help, try another until you find the right one. I haven't read if you have a job and wonder why you don't get a place of your own. It sounds like your husband provides for you, you accept, and then bite the hand that feeds you. You've indicated you will get screamed at, but given us no basis for thinking that. It really sounds like you are using him and give nothing but grief in return. I'm sorry if this sounds harsh, but from your own blogs, this seems to be a pattern for you with all human relations. Please seek professional assistance; they are there to help us. I really do wish you the best.

After reading all of your questions on here, why do you stay where you are so unhappy? Wouldn't it be better for the both of you if you left. You both could find someone to love again. We're not on this Earth long enough to be miserable all the time. Unless you're a martyr.
What Kalena09 said is very good advice. Try to find some help. Who knows it may help just having a professional to talk to.

Tell him straight out that you are his wife, not his maid, and if he doesn't like it, maybe HE should go somewhere else for the day.

Well maybe you should knock off your crap

Run as fast as you can......away from him.

Leave your husband, he isn't worth it if that's the way he treats you.

I have just recently taken my 2 kids and left my husband. I started with nothing but the kids. Within a week I had an apartment and a new job. Granted i am broke, but at least I am happy.

Now, ask yourself... Do you really LOVE him? Or are u in love with the him you want him to be? My husband is an alcoholic and was physically along with mentally abusive. No one deserves abuse, in any form.

If u truly LOVE him, then seek out a marriage counselor, and if he doesn't want to go, then you leave. You seek help and strength from all ur friends and family, you cry and wish things were different, but u endure that pain, cause in the end, you will be happier, either way.

Please, be strong. You are a human being, you deserve respect, and if he can't or wont give it to you, then something has to change.

The movie Fireproof is a good movie for this situation. It is a Christian movie, but it has a good message and the plan the husband uses to save his marriage has actually been used succesfully.

Nothing anyone on here says is really going to be the point, u are u. Start taking care of u!

What are you getting out of this relationship...do you LIKE to be miserable? I am not trying to be rude with this answer. If you have nothing in common with this man...you don't like him, his kids...leave. Go make a happy life for yourself. Don't get complacent and stay miserable...unless you like that. Life is to short. Be happy.

Get in your car, go find a lawyer, file for divorce.

You can come stay with me won't get screamed at here nobody needs that

HIS house? It should belong to the both of you sweetheart. *HUGS*

I agree with ego. You're wasting your time..

GO TO THE ***** CLUB, THEN YOU CAN GO BACK HOME.....THEN YOU CAN FIGURE WHAT IS BEST FOR YOU TO DO!

for me , I can't live with somebody that I hate . if I have a job and I can have a home or flat why do I have to be with someone I realy hate , I will live alone and make friends from everywhere and enjoy my life ... I will buy a german dog and teach it some funny things , I love german dog .lol.

I often find somewhere else to be. Usually for me it's a book store/cafe or wandering around a mall. If I feel really antisocial I'll just sit in my truck in a parking lot and read.

No. Dont run. Dont hide. Dont show him that your weak. Instead, when he comes home, act al nice and **** like that. Wait until he goes to sleep. Quietly, place a telephone book on his rib cage, and beat the **** out of him with a bat while he sleeps. If he gets up, knock his knees out. That's what I would do. Sorry if its not the help you want.

Scream back

He drives long haul and is only home once in a while? I am sure he is looking to relax on his day off. If you are the "housewife" then act like one. Take care of the house and give him some pampering. The man works his butt off and you leave when he is home to go and read? Try going home and bouncing on your husband for a few hours. He'll sleep like a baby and maybe look forward to the next time he sees you, and If you would like a real good line to use on him let me know. He''ll be finished and snoring in no time.

I'm alot like you just reading your thoughts. I was married for 20 years walking on egg shells . I been divorce for 9 years now , and I found out what was going on with this . It called co-dept look it up , get some books . It took me 29 years just to relized this. I hope this helps .