Omg I'm so hurt, I work with the father of my child and yesterday he came to my unit to talk to another girl.
I was hurt and embarassed. We are not together and i'm pretty sure i don't want to be but everyone knows we have a daughter so when he came to the specific unit where i work everyone was looking at me. My supervisor actually had to tell him to leave. He has been paying child support for a few months now and i know he was extremely angry about that and hasn't spoken to me or his daughter since but i'd think by now he would have gotten over it. I feel like he's walking all over me because he's been doing this kinda stuff for a year. How do I handle this?? should i leave??
8 Answers to "Omg I'm so hurt, I work with the father of my child and yesterday he came to my unit to talk to another girl."
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Hey sweety you dont have to be embarassed by the situation. Next time when the same scenario repeats then just ignore him as if he is not existing in the cabin... If you get bothered then he will bother you more... Start ignoring...
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i'm not sure what you expected when you had a kid with a random co-worker.
you're not together, so it's none of your business who he talks to. he's paying child support, so he's not shirking obligations. some of us had no father AND no child support.Like (2)
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Dang. You know i didn't plan a child. Sometimes things in life happen because you just didn't know better but that dosent give people the right to be nasty especially not to children. But sounds like you never ever have made any mistakes so you wouldn't understand.
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i'm not saying you chose the child, i'm saying that NOW you CAN choose how you react to this dork who obviously has nothing to give. mind your own business and don't let him control your mood.
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I agree its not really a question.. but for effect we'll all sit back and gaze at the ceiling and sigh..... Then I'll pipe up and say "what a bastard!!!" You'll glare at me and I'll feel guilty... Then we'll all look at each other knowingly and shake our heads in synchronicity...
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He's a grown man, who is not in a relationship with you, and as such is doing his part paying child support. That's the most you'll ever forcibly get from him. It's obvious you two don't have a good relationship, and he's taking it out on the child by refusing to be a major part of her life. He's free to socialize and sleep with whoever he wants, so don't throw a bitchfit over it unless you plan to seduce and marry him. It's a shame he doesn't want to be a part of his daughter's life right now, but at the very least you two (you and your daughter) should take initiative by calling him and asking about his day or asking to spend at least one weekend a month together. All you can do is hope that he grows up a bit and realizes how important it is to spend time with her while she's still young.
I get the feeling he doesn't want to deal with you, which is why he doesn't bother. Maybe when your daughter gets old enough to have a cellphone, she and "daddy" will be able to bond via phone calls or texts that don't go through you first.Like (1)
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Be glad you're not with him anymore, what a douche bag.
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Should you leave your job?? No.Should you leave the room if he comes in again? Not if it will affect your job.
He doesn't speak to his daughter.That alone should tell you what kind of man he is and that you need not bother with him anymore.Like (1)
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It's not really about being bothered with him. I've choosen to leave that situation alone. But i can't help but feel embarassed at work when eveyone sees how disrespectful he is. I am also hurt at the level of revengful behavior toward me. just because we arent together dosent mean we have to be enemies or at least i thought.
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not that its relevant to this heated topic... but its been bugging me for the last few days... What is your avatar thinking about, and is that a set of bathroom scales on the floor....?
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He has his own inner deamons. He must fight those, hopefully they do not affect you or your daughter
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Posted by Rolle2323 Sep 20th, 2012 at 9:03AM
You DO know he did that on purpose just to hurt you and get under your skin, correct? There are a million girls in the world, and he didn't have to come on to your unit to talk to another girl WHILE YOU WERE THERE. He is deliberately trying to hurt you. He is probably angry that he has to pay child support. Men can play the most awful games.
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