It is nice of you to care. The fact is, it is not unknown by your friend that her habit is bad. She knows. Your words of concern are of no use at that point. Just be her friend and she will concern herself with her smoking on her own time.
you did the right thing...smoking sucks... tell her again you're just concerned
WTF first of all her reaction is completely ridiculous, I'm sorry but the fact that she threw the bracelet at you made me laugh. What a childish behaviour!<br />
I don't think you should care about that. Why do you even feel sad for someone who chooses a cigarette over you? Are you sure she's your friend?<br />
Just move on, her life, her health, not your problem anymore.
Sweetie, that wasn't your best friend talking. That was the monkey on her back. Be patient and forgiving. You made it clear how you feel, she made it clear how she feels and the two of you have discovered a boundary. My best advice is to gently, patiently let her know you're still her friend and you said those things because you're worried. And be sure you're willing to let that go for now, and let her know it. Later after re-establishing your friendship you can talk about if but be compassionate and supportive, don't confront.
Apologize to her.<br />
Smoking is a political statement for some people.
It would have probably been better if you had been casual, tactful and just talked about it, which should be easy since you're best friends. When you sit someone down and tell them someone that some part of them is a problem, and you're not ok with it, that seems rude. That's what parents do when they are telling off little kids. Lots of 16 year olds smoke, they want to do it (it's not like it happens on accident), they wont consider it a problem. Ask general questions to get her thoughts, instead of being imposing.
wow, it sounds like you should worry more about the fact that she seems to have some major issues with bipolar and dont worry near as much about her smoking.<br />
I smoke and I hear people make comments about my health all the time. Its very sweet of them to worry but even people who dont smoke drive cars that shoot crap out of them that is the equivalent of about 500 cartons of cigarettes within just a few meters...so really should anyone be judging the smokers? No probably not but its an awesome fad right now to target them as if the rest arent driving around in lung murder machines and spraying chemical waste on there hair to make it stay in that very cute way and lord knows that your make up factories and hair coloring companies are dumping chemicals into water that in return is drank by people and causes stomach cancer.....but lets focus on the smokers so we dont pay attention to any of the other stuff that causes major issues with lung cancer.
lol I really am ranting! It was fun though. and yes some do drive cars but my point was that there's a billion different ways that people die so why get hung up on one specific way when were all just wandering around killing each other and our selves in those billions different ways?
lol I prefer to reject the temptation to be so serious about something that was a joke and say yes to a seance of humor.
The woman chucked a necklace at her and threw a hissy fit because her own friend was concerned about her. I think that warrants a mood swing issue and a bi polar joke to lighten the mood. Cant you see the over reaction on her friends part and how she made her own friend feel like crap for worrying about her health as something that is not exactly right thinking? I do, because good friends don't typically act like jerks like that unless they have some major issues so laugh it off and move on.
Most people just think nothing of smoking cigaettes until they develop something later, some regret it, some won't.<br />
If your friend won't accept your advice, just move on and leave her be.
Nothing, If she didn't listen then, she won't listen now.