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One shouldn't pursue romantic relationships until one is ready to get married. True or False. Why?

My first boyfriend was when I was 20. I'm Twenty-three now and married to him. Have been for the last three years plan on being so for the next sixty+ until one or both of us dies.

I'm not saying you have to marry the first person your date but shouldn't that be the goal to find out if you are compatible for a lifelong stable relationship? My husband and I had every serious/awkward conversation we could think of in the first three dates and THEN we fell in love and got married after we figured out the mechanics. We were friends we didn't want to screw it up with a romantic relationship if it was going to end.

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    noellecasely - 31-35 years old - female

    Posted by noellecasely 1 Jul 16th, 2012 at 4:00PM

    Romantic relationships? Or an excuse for having sex?It has been shown that happy marriages don't result from living together first. In fact one study revealed that the divorce rate among people living together before marriage was extremely high--about 80% The reason is simple. You supposedly live together to see if everything will work. Human beings being what they are don't switch that easily. So after marriage when there are problems--and there will be marriage is hard---they still remember the "we can still get out" clause. A 50% divorce rate proves this doesn't it? Now that was one study-----but it's enough to re-evaluate this idea.

    Marriage is serious business. We use it as a means of creating families--the building block of our society and by far the best way to raise children. We seem to be cheapening all that our parents and grandparents valued. I think we're on a truly slippery slope and this is JUST ONE MORE OF THE MUDDY SPOTS

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10 Answers to "One shouldn't pursue romantic relationships until one is ready to get married. True or False. Why?"

  1. SilenceEvermore - 18-21 years old

    Posted by SilenceEvermore Jul 16th, 2012 at 3:39PM

    True. When going into a relationship you should be ready to get married, whether the one you are dating is "the one" or not. I thought the whole point of dating was to ascertain whether or not the individual you're dating is the person you want to devote the rest of your life to.

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  2. Orkaprol - 41-45 years old - female

    Posted by Orkaprol Jul 16th, 2012 at 3:36PM

    How would you know you want to get to get married and who you should marry unless you have romantic relationships first? Not unless you want an arranged marriage.

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  3. LithiumHaze - 36-40 years old - male

    Posted by LithiumHaze Jul 16th, 2012 at 3:36PM

    False.
    Who in their right mind would go out and buy a car without a test drive? It's an old analogy but a good one.

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  4. JoeyPFoxx - 41-45 years old - male

    Reply by JoeyPFoxx Jul 16th, 2012 at 4:02PM

    I think you missed the point.

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  5. MaraChelle - 31-35 years old - female

    Reply by MaraChelle Jul 16th, 2012 at 4:19PM

    I think the point is, "You shouldn't test drive a car unless you're ready to buy one... Otherwise, you're wasting time."

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  6. nordicabduction - 18-21 years old - male

    Posted by nordicabduction Sep 16th, 2012 at 7:10PM

    It's true.

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  7. JoeyPFoxx - 41-45 years old - male

    Posted by JoeyPFoxx Jul 16th, 2012 at 4:02PM

    True and False.

    True. Every date, every relationship should be a test run for the future.

    False. I see no problem with being "romantic" as a teen.

    From the time I was 13 or 14, I considered the purpose of dating to be in line with my trying to find a wife. I never understood teenagers that had relationships any longer than 3 months.

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  8. Stardancer29 - 26-30 years old - female

    Posted by Stardancer29 Jul 16th, 2012 at 3:43PM

    False.

    I understand your view point and if you are really happy, then you are very lucky and I'm happy for you!

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  9. mrmoose1947 - 61-65 years old - male

    Posted by mrmoose1947 Jul 16th, 2012 at 3:38PM

    False, because it's the pursuet that's fun.

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  10. steppingup - 41-45 years old - male

    Posted by steppingup Jul 16th, 2012 at 3:37PM

    Romance comes in many forms, someone need to have marriage as the end goal to date and have strong relationships in my opinion. I think this is true in most cases, some people are different. I'm glad I had other romances before I was married, it helped me prepare for marriage.

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  11. pinknailpolish89 - 22-25 years old - female

    Posted by pinknailpolish89 Jul 16th, 2012 at 3:36PM

    false! sometimes you need to go through a few relationships to see what kind of person really is good for you-sometimes you dont realize these things till your in a relationship or its over. im glad i went through a few-it would have been a huge mistake to marry any of my previous boyfriends-but i didnt realize that while i was with them.

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