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Online dating etiquette 101: is telling important information upfront a good thing or bad thing and why?

i truly don't like lying and i feel someone that i'm interested in needs to understand certain things about me before i get involved. is that a little harsh or necessary?

information that could change a persons view of you if they knew that one thing...

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    t3ach - 46-50 years old - female

    Posted by t3ach 1 Apr 27th, 2011 at 5:58PM

    It could be either one. I think that I would keep some information "close to the vest". When I met my husband, I was very upfront and told him just what I wanted, expected, and needed. I thought that this would give him the opportunity to run away if we were not compatible. Instead it told him how to deceive me and pretend that we were of like mind.

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  1. towhead2 - 41-45 years old - male

    Posted by towhead2 Apr 26th, 2011 at 9:53AM

    I don't think it's any different than if you're meeting and dating in person except I wouldn't share any personal contact information other than an email address for quite a while.

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  2. Lithriel - 26-30 years old - female

    Posted by Lithriel Jul 16th, 2011 at 6:34PM

    yes it's important to tell them right away. then if they leave no harm done, but if you wait and then tell them once you really care for them and they leave, you'll hurt. I told my bf some pretty harsh stuff about myself right off when we started talking, and everything turned out fine. he told me some harsh stuff too, but once it was out of the way, we knew that the worst things we've ever done didn't scare the other person off, so we knew we could be in a relationship. plus if it's anything like my situation he'll respect you for your honestly and forthrightness. apparently that's one of the reasons my bf continued to pursue me, he liked how blunt and honest I was, even about bad stuff. it shows them you aren't just putting on a false face for their benefit. so that they will like you.
    if it's meant to be, they will like you no matter what! be honest and forthright like I did, it worked out great for me, my bf and I now live together and are very much in love, he even moved to my city to be with me!

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  3. STORMBRINGER72 - 36-40 years old - male

    Posted by STORMBRINGER72 Apr 27th, 2011 at 9:44AM

    use " the need to know " principle and it will work out just fine

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  4. kissykisskiss - 41-45 years old - female

    Posted by kissykisskiss Apr 25th, 2011 at 10:27PM

    Depends on how you define "Important Information".

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  5. uralba - 56-60 years old - male

    Posted by uralba Apr 25th, 2011 at 9:19PM

    No one likes surprises well into a relationship, be upfront.

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  6. TheSquirrel - 46-50 years old - male

    Posted by TheSquirrel Apr 25th, 2011 at 8:21PM

    It's your life. It's your call.

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