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Pardon my ignorance - sigh- but if a man tries to catch your eye several times, does it mean he is interested?

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Asked By: Vessa 41-45, F  1 year ago

Wow...am I bad at this sort of thing.

Today we were in a sandwich shop. A man came in. He saw me. He placed his order, and then he glanced back at me. Caught my eye. Then he did it again as he was picking up the order. Again when he was getting his drink. Then we went out ahead of him. He went out to his car and looked at me in the eye again. He didn't give a big smile or anything...just a look that lasted a little longer than normal.

What should I have done here?

(I know...therapy.)

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  1. SouthernPlains - 51-55 years old - male

    Posted by SouthernPlains Mar 14th, 2012 at 4:38AM

    I'm not sure what you call it, but I think of those instances as some sort of amazingly magical brief romance with someone you do not know. When the room is filled with electricity because you BOTH know there is a connection that has been made. Then it is over. Yes -- he was attracted to you in a big way.

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  2. pentupfreedom - 46-50 years old - male

    Posted by pentupfreedom Mar 13th, 2012 at 10:42PM

    He wants you.

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  3. Vessa - 41-45 years old - female

    Reply by Vessa Mar 13th, 2012 at 10:48PM

    LOL....well, why didn't he just SAY so? What am I, a mind reader?? ;)

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  4. pentupfreedom - 46-50 years old - male

    Reply by pentupfreedom Mar 13th, 2012 at 10:55PM

    You already knew that, didn't you?

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  5. Callalilly - 56-60 years old - female

    Posted by Callalilly Mar 14th, 2012 at 9:19AM

    Well, he probably thought you were beautiful. However, the judicial part of me jumps out and says, he might have been a rapist or serial killer. After having worked as long as I did in law, it is hard, very hard, to see the good in people. Most people are most usually on the hunt to get what they can from others. Ergo, that is why I'm on here. I rarely trust any more. Sad fact, but I've been hurt many times and that pain stays with one. Good luck. You are a kind and caring person. I hope love follows you and your son forever. Callalilly

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  6. Vessa - 41-45 years old - female

    Reply by Vessa Mar 14th, 2012 at 10:24AM

    You are a very sweet person, Calla. I'm sorry you have lost trust- I have too. And it definitely occurred to me that the guy might not have had good intentions. For all I know, the looks were about hate or just wanting to use me for a while. You never know, and that's one reason it's a lonelier world. I'd like for you and for me to find someone that we can lean on and trust. I think we've got it coming, don't you? :)

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  7. neeran - 26-30 years old - male

    Posted by neeran Mar 14th, 2012 at 2:31AM

    I think he was trying to get your attention for some reasons.

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  8. 7thPrime - 31-35 years old - male

    Posted by 7thPrime Mar 13th, 2012 at 10:46PM

    Yep he wants you...but most women run from this. If the man doesn't have any guts to say something to you, then its probably best left alone...

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  9. Vessa - 41-45 years old - female

    Reply by Vessa Mar 13th, 2012 at 10:49PM

    I was thinking that...don't know the guy of course. And the lack of a smile was a little odd.

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  10. SouthernPlains - 51-55 years old - male

    Reply by SouthernPlains Mar 14th, 2012 at 4:41AM

    Vessa.. it is difficult for a man to smile when all he can think about is "Dear God, she is so beautiful." Kinda like the walking and chewing gum at the same time thing.

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  11. TheDarkTower - 31-35 years old - male

    Posted by TheDarkTower Mar 13th, 2012 at 10:39PM

    Yeah, he probably was interested. I do that too, when I don't particularly know how to proceed, or when I feel as if it's not the right time to proceed. Something like that happened recently to me as a matter of fact. A new girl began working at my job... And she immediately caught my attention, I couldn't stop staring at her. And she acknowledged it, came over and introduced herself to me. And now I have a new friend :) Maybe one day it will turn into something more.

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  12. Vessa - 41-45 years old - female

    Reply by Vessa Mar 13th, 2012 at 10:50PM

    Did you just stare or were you actually friendly? I just don't know what to do with a "look" that is blank. I've gotten them before, and I never know what to do about it. I never know if he's staring because he is interested or if he thinks I look like an alien.

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  13. TheDarkTower - 31-35 years old - male

    Reply by TheDarkTower Mar 13th, 2012 at 10:51PM

    Well, at first I just kind of looked dumbly at her, because in that moment she was so beautiful to me, I couldn't do anything else. And then I began smiling at her, but I couldn't stop looking at her lol. And now we talk all the time and it feels great ;D

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  14. 40ishgirl - 41-45 years old - female

    Posted by 40ishgirl Mar 13th, 2012 at 10:39PM

    oh my god that happen to me at the bank and like you i didn't know what to do. my son was like, mom say hi but i was so shy and really, this doesn't happen to me so i just didn't know what to do. so i don't have an answer but i thought you would like to know you are not alone !!!!

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  15. Vessa - 41-45 years old - female

    Reply by Vessa Mar 13th, 2012 at 10:52PM

    The guy just looked and didn't smile either? I don't get it. I don't understand how guys operate. And wow, is it frustrating. lol

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  16. 40ishgirl - 41-45 years old - female

    Reply by 40ishgirl Mar 13th, 2012 at 10:54PM

    yes that is what he did. he just kept on looking and i was like turning around because i thought maybe i was doing the looking!!!! so awkward

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  17. KnobbyKnees - 46-50 years old - male

    Posted by KnobbyKnees Mar 13th, 2012 at 10:39PM

    Smile back and be natural......or remove the excess food from your face.

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  18. Vessa - 41-45 years old - female

    Reply by Vessa Mar 13th, 2012 at 10:53PM

    That's the thing...he didn't smile. Just looked and held my eye for a moment.

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  19. KnobbyKnees - 46-50 years old - male

    Reply by KnobbyKnees Mar 14th, 2012 at 1:33PM

    Prpb didn't have his teeth in and wanted to make a good impression.

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  20. DistantLonging - 36-40 years old - male

    Posted by DistantLonging Mar 13th, 2012 at 10:39PM

    Not ignorance. :-) It's very likely he's trying to get your attention...

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  21. Vessa - 41-45 years old - female

    Reply by Vessa Mar 13th, 2012 at 10:40PM

    Thanks. I have no idea. If only he'd smiled or something.

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  22. DistantLonging - 36-40 years old - male

    Reply by DistantLonging Mar 13th, 2012 at 10:42PM

    Guys sometimes literally need those people at airports that guide planes with the cone flashlights...

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  23. executive85 - 26-30 years old - male

    Posted by executive85 Mar 13th, 2012 at 10:38PM

    yeah he was diggin you, possibly waiting for some body language from you.. or he might of been shy.

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  24. Vessa - 41-45 years old - female

    Reply by Vessa Mar 13th, 2012 at 10:41PM

    Is it normal for guys not to smile when they're diggin you? lol

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  25. executive85 - 26-30 years old - male

    Reply by executive85 Mar 13th, 2012 at 10:47PM

    lol. it is very possible. maybee you should of checked him and smiled at him, if he didnt smile back..id get out sight if i where you!lol

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  26. dfwgirl - 36-40 years old - female

    Posted by dfwgirl Mar 13th, 2012 at 10:38PM

    Introduce yourself, that's how I met my first bf
    he would come into the place I worked at. I finally said hey, my name is blah blah blah
    and there u have it :)

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  27. Vessa - 41-45 years old - female

    Reply by Vessa Mar 13th, 2012 at 10:43PM

    We weren't in that kind of situation. I was sitting down and eating with my son. He was across the room placing his order, paying, getting his drink, etc. He didn't come into my "space".

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  28. aloneinthedark69 - 41-45 years old - male

    Posted by aloneinthedark69 Mar 13th, 2012 at 10:38PM

    I don't know about this particular situation, but if a man does that, he is definitely interested...

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  29. Vessa - 41-45 years old - female

    Reply by Vessa Mar 13th, 2012 at 10:44PM

    Maybe he thought I was one of his long lost exes. Interested doesn't always mean in a good way. lol

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  30. aloneinthedark69 - 41-45 years old - male

    Reply by aloneinthedark69 Mar 13th, 2012 at 10:54PM

    No it doesn't.. LOL

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