Being a good friend includes giving the other person space, even if you don't understand why. Just with the timing of her breakup and you are a male, it would be respectful to not be too forward (don't ask too many questions) and give her the space she needs for a few weeks and then contact her for an update, how is she, etc.
Hopefully she grows and makes healthier decisions in her future.
Awe, you're sweet, but don't tell her things that you don't fully feel in your heart. You are just saying what you think she wants to hear and there is no integrity (sorry) in that...... You want to have integrity. It's where healthy relationship start from.
Get counseling + get better =get a healthy relationship.
You are doing great then! I'm proud of you! I think everyone would benefit from counseling. It teaches us so many important skills that we don't learn anywhere else except through life and it costs us a piece of our life to learn it (if we're lucky) so why not learn it thoroughly through counseling. Good for you! Just continue to grow and you will find the right girl for you in the right timing.
I wouldn't sweat it, to be honest she sounds like a damn fool. If she said no, accept no. Don't chase this girl. Deep down, you know you want more than a friendship, no point in getting yourself involved with this girl, doesn't seem like it will end well.
dont worry about it then
To be honest, from your desc<x>ription... I think she has been abused. Of course I think more information is very needed to evaluate correctly. Now this form of abuse that I am thinking of is emotional abuse.<br />
This could account to why she seems to act odd to you. So if you wonder why her reaction seems unusual, your instincts are picking up on something.
sorry- I must have typed wrong to get this kind of results.
I hope she realizes he is not good for her.
control- the key word!
yes, and now you gave me more evidence. She really needs help- but I suspect she doesnt even know it, I know- cant help someone who doesnt ask for it, but if she and he gets back together again, basically she is moving in the wrong direction. Now it is possible that he DID really leave, but I doubt it. Seems more like he is "teaching" her a lesson. You can hope he is gone, but unless she gets a really good guy, she will attract the same type again. Now I am no fortune teller, but this is how it usually goes- let's hope she does not follow the same path as a classic case.
well, chances are she will not listen, So the best thing, in my opinion, would be to make SURE she KNOWS you are there for her. If she calls, you will be there. Maybe one day she will realize something, and come to you for help or just to listen to her.
Personally, I think it wouldnt hurt to hint that he is not so good for her, and good riddance- he is doing her a favor for leaving... and encourage her NOT to look back. Make it sorta lighthearted, and maybe it will sink in a tad bit.
If you want to go the tough route, tell her flat out that she is being abused... and to beware of those types... Good luck on this one!
This could be more drama than you are prepared to go through. It is not a good way to start a relationship- but warning her might be a good thing for her.
you are welcome... but remember this is only my opinion. And remember to think about yourself and what is good for you.
Well thank goodness. She may not see it as a blessing, but yay- because it was. It broke the cycle. Maybe now, no telling how long from now, she will be able to find information what abuse is, and see some of it, as something she experienced!
oh yes, that shows he IS that type. Problem is, if she is telling him things, and he is reacting, then chances are they will be back together. Shudders**
Well there is not much you can do, if she shuts you out. You said your part, and seems that may be all you can do.
well especially if his new girl is not easily acceptable to abuse and control. I am sure it is not happening yet- it usually is slow to show, then becomes a daily thing. I am sure they are in what is called a honeymoon period. So your friend accepts it from him, and I am sure he feels comfortable with her. So it is a matter of time, if he so chooses to be back with her and she says yes, at least- so it seems from what I have read.
well if he drops the other girl, and she keeps after him, he may go for easy access, which I think is doomsday for her. Hopefully he will go away and stay there
There is a book called : Men Who Hate Women, and Women Who Love Them by Susan Forward, Ph.D.
IF she likes to read, this is the book that would open her eyes. This book will tell her things that she will recognize. If this does not open her eyes, then she is determined, and there is nothing you can do about it. I am sorry.