Please read details. I need help.
I have been kinda distant, with my younger brother for some time, and have said some mean things to him, while we have been in fights, like really terrible things. I just found out that he's been having a really hard time in school with people and just been really sad lately, people not including him and stuff. I never new this was going on, and i feel like ****, like i should have been giving the guy support. I feel like i failed as an older brother, and should have been the bigger person and realized he was going threw hard times. I Don't even give him support or hang out with him.. Am i looking to much into this or i should feel bad right? He does not know i know what i do about what hes going threw should i just talk with him. I'm worried that he would think about suicide or something crazy like that.
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Posted by Limitedchaos Mar 12th, 2013 at 10:41PM
Just stop kicking yourself, swallow your pride and go to him and just do what you know in your heart needs to be done. He might not be receptive at first, it will be awkward probably for both of you, but just push past all of that and start now, working on the relationship you want to have, and BE CONSISTENT. Don't just do this for a day! Turn things around for good. Make him a priority in your life. Is there another male figure in his life? How old is your brother?
Just think, you may very well keep him from doing something terrible or making a stupid life changing choice like drugs. You will feel so good once you take this step! I think you're awesome just for caring, now step up!
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Reply by Leftisneverup Mar 12th, 2013 at 10:41PM
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Posted by musicbook Mar 12th, 2013 at 10:40PM
Just talk with him.
You can't undo the past but you decide what today will be like.
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Posted by YourBFF Mar 12th, 2013 at 10:37PM
Yeah you should definately reconnect with your younger brother. Let him know what you just typed in the details, and try to make up for lost time. Don't just feel guilty, especially when your little brother brother might really need you. Use all the effort you can muster up, for your family's sake.
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Reply by Leftisneverup Mar 12th, 2013 at 10:42PM
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Posted by laceset34 Mar 12th, 2013 at 10:36PM
You need to be a big brother to him. Let the petty stuff go. I damn near lost my little bro this year. Trust me, It's not worth losing a family member over a fight. Guide him!
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Reply by Leftisneverup Mar 12th, 2013 at 10:38PM
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Posted by lovewwe Mar 12th, 2013 at 10:36PM
we've all said things to our siblings that we regret...put that in the past and start fresh with your brother. spend some time with him...i've found that kids are more likely to talk about things that are bothering them when you're driving in the car. take him for a ride and ask him about school. btw...the fact that you want to help him makes you a GREAT brother in my book!
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Reply by Leftisneverup Mar 12th, 2013 at 10:39PM
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Posted by 1Booklover510 Mar 12th, 2013 at 10:35PM
I definitely think you should talk with him about it and be honest with him. Great beginning to repairing the relationship between the two of you.
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Posted by AnonymousButCandid Mar 12th, 2013 at 10:35PM
If you know what he's been through, then just have a bro-to-bro talk -- take him out for a drink (or out for coffee if he's too young), and encourage him to talk.
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Posted by inthebelljar Mar 12th, 2013 at 10:35PM
feeling bad about how you acted in the past is not going to help your brother out.. reach out to him, spend time with him, try to help and support him now instead of worrying about what was said and done in the past..
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Posted by starship33 Mar 12th, 2013 at 10:34PM
you realize your mistake now you can correct. you should be his biggest supporter. so talk with him in a loving way.
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Posted by Azrae144 Mar 12th, 2013 at 10:33PM
Maybe you should just try to solidify your relationship with him without mention of his troubles. Let him bring that up to you if he wants. Just approach him with a truthful intention, that he is your brother and you care for him and his well being and don't mean the terrible things you say. Family is important man.
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Reply by Leftisneverup Mar 12th, 2013 at 10:35PM
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Reply by Azrae144 Mar 12th, 2013 at 10:37PM
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