she is not a pre teen. she is a budding young woman.<br />
be grateful that she came to you first. <br />
and get her her protection, teach her how to properly use it effectively, and then...<br />
try really hard to keep that little boy afraid to impregnate her. i mean SCARE the hell out of him. <br />
Maybe buy or rent a prego belly. make her wear it for all evening she is home. <br />
Try to prevent any unsupervised visits, but be understanding that your daughter needs to live her life, and honestly, The generations are getting active younger and younger:)
honestly not. People are just getting shocked about it now. People used to marry well before 16, and have kids before 18. Society is just getting more prudish. It is understandable why, society works differently, and at 14-16 you're not really at the stage where you can handle raising a child these days, but on the other hand, contraception changes a lot of that. The legal age in most of europe is 15. Spain is even as low as 13! And teen pregnancy is way lower there than in the US. Because sex is such a taboo subject in the US, people don't want to teach contraception, and instead teach abstinence, which has been proven by study after study that it doesn't work. A person who pledges abstinence is just as likely to have sex as someone who hasn't.
She is NOT a preteen...she is 14. She is old enough to make her own decisions. Get her protection and let her go.
It's nature.<br />
Rules and regulations matters NOT.<br />
Church rules and society's regulations are on the lowest priority on the mind of the growing, passionate and loving person.<br />
"OMG!" - yes I can hear you.<br />
Now wake up and hear them.
What she will get is a foot in the ***, a visit from me to her boyfriend and his parents, a banning of the boyfriend and a restriction on her freedom. My house, my child, my rules. No birth control because sexual activity at 14 is not permitted. I will stamp out the rebellion because it is my job as a parent. Don't tell me it doesn't work. I have raised two happy well adjusted daughters who understand the no-sex rule. Stand up and do your job!
your job as a parent to protect that child so you teach her and yes if she comes to you and ask permission you sit down and talk wither about the rules and guide lines to allow it and it works by also allowing them to learn with each other
the test question I used was when that boy was willing to come and ask permission to love her we talked and it worked out great
were simple you help out at home
your grades had to stay the same or go up both set of grades went up then both got out of high school with 3.7 and went on to collage and they did it with out a child
Where the hell is her mother !!!!
Tell the Mother to get a spine. Her rebellion excuse is idiotic, and her daughter is not her buddy, she is her child.<br />
How old is the boy? Talk to him, too. Is HE ready to be a Father? How much is his allowance? ;)
dont let her, its gonna mess up her life, she can become an addict, get an std, and of course pregnancy
EEEEEWWWWW!!!! Ew, do not want to picture, need mind wipe! <br />
Any 14 year old who says that needs to be grounded and kept from seeing this "boyfriend" and also needs a good talking to about why she cannot have sex at 14.
we were just 12 the that first time we had been playing with and touch each other for months sense March of 1961 we knew each other body all of it I knew how to make her and our bed ds soaking wet just with words and how to touch certain places and make her shake all over <br />
that first morning we were not doing anything we had not done many other mornings sense April when her mother gave me a new home<br />
when we felt our body join for that first time there was nothing like it in this world<br />
as we allowed her body to relax we knew we could never undue what had just happened to us as we started to finish<br />
after wards we layed then kissing and holding each other then we got up and cleaned each other up like we had been taught then walked out holding hand to our adults as they looked at us we told them we were sorry we had broken our word and not waited till we were out of 8th grade<br />
they hugged us and told us it was ok today was just graduation and we did it ill about 1/11/1967 and that last night all we did was hold each other and talk and kiss I think till we fell asleep in each others arms<br />
later the alarm went off and I kissed her trying not to wake her and I grabbed my gear and joined Mike as we heading to the air craft the next morning was talking to her as the planed made it last turn into a debarkation ba<x>se and had just told her I loved her as then plane really it seemed just caught fire and started to fall apart 6 months later I came out of a coma and learned my wife was killed the next morning as she walked to her office in Saigon
i say yes because she just wants to know what it feels like and at least she is asking you for protection
preteen parent....... :s
I dont know who she is BUT - you could try a very heart felt discussion on why she should wait. Be patient and loving with her. She may surprise you with a new decision.<br />
Having said that - prepare her for her first time with real knowledge. I am NOT saying condone her actions or in any way shape or form encourage her actions.<br />
But at 14 she is just as likely to get pregnant as she is at 16 or 18. <br />
My own cousin was a mother and her child already born at 14. By the time she was 18 she already had 3 kids. No ****!
just get her on the pill! i started much younger
use implant way better no worry about a missed pill for next 5 years
It is not a big deal. It is not uncommon for a girl to have had 3 or 4 partners by 14. Grown ups just don't tell 14 year olds that is what they did at that age. Not saying it is right or wrong, but it doesn't make you weird.
see.. this is why I wanna get my tubes tied. I'm not sure I want a daughter. :l
look what kids see on tv the music what people talk about,<br />
mixed feeling on subject I think there have to be defined lines draw<br />
sorry we were just 12.5 years old when we started across that line<br />
do not think it hurt us we grew up in a different age we both worked and honor role in school and we lived with her mother we paid rent and bought our share of the food for the home we did chores<br />
we would have never fought back as we knew we had something few others had<br />
we would have never disrespected any adult in our group<br />
this was back in a time where you could not buy protection in a store you did not have pills<br />
of all the kids in our group they only had one child in high school and that child was not from the boy that stood up and said he was the father to protect the girl they all stayed with each other till death<br />
the only two that did not stay was steve and I am sure he would have rather been in her arms then a grave after the xmass offensive in 1968 Viet nam when we lost many good kids<br />
my wife was the other one that gave her life for a country that **** on it service people and broke it promise to those that gave there life's and body parts for a police action