"If I were you", I would just do what everyone else does. Remain confused.
Others happy? Don't believe it. There is public,then private. <br />
Most long term relationships the people hate the other person.<br />
Have fun. Don't commit. "Sworn to fun,loyal to none".
Me too!<br />
That's why "Friends with Benefits" makes much more sense :)
the only thing you're "throwing away" is inexperience, Really good bed partners are not THAT plentiful BUT with discretion,they're easily discovered :)
Shame? You've obviously been listening to too many sermons by guilt pedaling BOGUS preachers! Having sex is a normal body function to enjoy! Silly girl, It's NOT a sacred act! Lol :)
Mature attitudes are NOT rationed by gender dear :)