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Religious dilemma? please shed some light?

so here is the situation. I grew up as Muslim. for some reason I was never religious. If I truly ask my self I don't think I even believe in a God. But I follow Islam regardless for my parents sake. When I moved away from school I did stray a lot for a little bit. Now I am ok, I hang out with mainly all arabic people. I am trying to live my life as a good Muslim even if I don't believe in the religion it self. Anyway I don't wear a scarf even though all of my other friends do. They suggest I should start wearing a scarf. The thing is even though I hang out with all Arabic people I do hang out with other people and guys. They think this will hurt my reputation for marriage. Which is true but do I want to stop hanging out with my guy friends just cuz of that? If a guy thinks I am a whore just cuz I hang out with guys than is he even worth it? o Should I wear a hijab?

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I'm muslim, and the most important thing to know about Islam is that it's a journey. You are asked to question every part of it using logic, not blind emotion. No one has the right to judge you, and as muslims your friends should know this. Be on your journey, think logically, and discover what works for you, for that is what is asked of you in Islam. Many people fail to see this. As for covering, it is your decision. The prophets wives covered as a sign of modesty, so many muslim women wear the hijab as a sign of admiration and modesty as well. About friends, many of my friends are christians or athiests, it doesn't matter which religion they are from. What matter's is what is in their hearts. What matters is what is in your heart.

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SummerWind18	Posted Sep 8th, 2009 at 1:54PM I hate to say it, but consider not trying to fit in to your religious community. Don't be afraid to be different and not conform. Just because you were born a certain nationality doesn't mean you actually are their religion. You are not that religion, and you don't have to try to be what you are not. be brave enough to be different. Rated: +3Vote for this!
KavookiSoldier	Posted Sep 7th, 2009 at 8:45PM grabs spot-light shines it on you Is that enough light... Rated: +3Vote for this!
WeepingBurma	Posted Sep 7th, 2009 at 10:05PM I used to try to be a Christian, but I could never truly believe. I was so miserable. You know how I found happiness? I accepted who I was. Rated: +2Vote for this!
bricmpt	Posted Sep 8th, 2009 at 1:59AM Religion is for those who are afraid. Try spirituality and leave religion to the fearful. Rated: +2Vote for this!
roarke09	Posted Sep 7th, 2009 at 10:07PM dude, where do you live? This is your first question on EP? nothing in your profile? On the surface it doesn't sound like your are being respectful to anyone or anything. Not yourself, your religion, your friends Sounds like you need to do some deep soul searching and pick a direction. THEN sort things out. Rated: +2Vote for this!
shf84	Posted Sep 8th, 2009 at 1:38AM When I quit Christanity I quit it I knew it was wrong and evil I removed every aspect of it from my life. If you don't believe in the religion there must be a reason for that right? If you think it's not true than why would you want to follow it? Islam is a bad influance in the world I would have nothing to do with it. Rated: +2Vote for this!
WeepingBurma	Posted Sep 7th, 2009 at 8:41PM I used to try to be a Christian, but I could never truly believe. I was so miserable. You know how I found happiness? I accepted who I was. Rated: +1Vote for this!
hurldog	Posted Sep 7th, 2009 at 8:35PM Join the Zen Dudeists. You can wear anything or nothing. Rated: +1Vote for this!
Tyrrmack	Posted Sep 7th, 2009 at 8:35PM My my, the things I could say, all of which would get me flagged. Rated: +1Vote for this!
Socklord	Posted Sep 7th, 2009 at 8:38PM I'd wear it. It helps you fit in. Unless you are going to move completely away, it's the best thing to do. Spoken from an infidel. Rated: +1Vote for this!
theologian	Posted Sep 7th, 2009 at 10:19PM if you cannot find faith in Allah but find faith in Mohammed's teachings - that is quite acceptable. You follow your own path, choose that which works, and don't do what doesn't - as for the scarf - do you want to stand up and fight - or sit down and listen unnoticed. the scarf has become a symbol of oppression in many places, do you mind being oppressed? marry someone who loves you regardless of scarfs and modesty - you never know - maybe it will be all that beautiful hair revealed, that will attract your mate. is there a gender problem? - I can't see your profile. . . Rated: +1Vote for this!
StMyer14	Posted Sep 8th, 2009 at 12:38AM Well you sound like an atheist who is having a problem due to your environment. I have a secret tho, if your friends are your friends then you can wear one or not they will still be so. If guys think you are a ***** because you hang out with men, they sound like very controlling and people who you would not want to have a relationship with. It isn't your fault you were born Muslim and you can't change that fact, but you can change your path now and where your headed. You can decide that and your friends and family will support you no matter what. Rated: +1Vote for this!
vikkyadithya01	Posted Sep 8th, 2009 at 3:50AM I dont know what to say.. I mean you dont want to be too religious and want be free... (which is the right of every human to decide for him/herself) but then, you wont fit in your community (which you should be in for the rest of your life...) But i know this much, if you start bending your head for others, they will make you bend it so deep it will rip right off your body.... so, it might be a little tough but "BE WHAT YOU ARE..!!" and as for marriage, there are many people who think like you. I am sure you will find someone with the same thoughts as yours.... let me say it again, it is every human beings right to be what he/she wants to be... (as long as it doenst hurt others) Rated: +1Vote for this!
SolFeather	Posted Sep 8th, 2009 at 9:19AM If you don't want to be Muslim or wear the garb...then don't. It won't hurt your chances of marriage as there are plenty of people that are not Muslim, etc out there that don't give a rats butt if you wear a scarf or not and don't care if you have guy friends, etc. Rated: +1Vote for this!
idolno1	Posted Sep 8th, 2009 at 12:03PM I don't know how your faith addresses the issue with having one foot in the door or sitting on the fence. Not being fully in-gulfed in your beliefs. For me, if I'm not doing it to my fullest I say what is the point. Better to be cold than to be luke-warm. Best to be HOT and be in it for the long haul than to just do it for someone else. You need to be all in or not at all in my opinion. Rated: +1Vote for this!

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