Romance trouble?
if i need something out of a relation
for example i wasnt loved too much when i was a kid or now.. from my family .. or friends ..
so love is the thing i NEED deeply!
and he doesnt need it much in his life..
so he doesnt give it alot
or need it
i know their is a thin line between NEEDING something to make love great and the relation too
and a thin line between becoming too obssessed about a guy and i cant handle it for my self
so now iam on the first line! i NEED love.. but if doesnt exist that doesnt make me feel like iam nothing without it!
so when this happened between me and the guy
where does that put us?
if i complain about it with him
he will say iam complaining about it!
instead i know he should give it to me without even asking for it
i know this is the type of a healthy relation (when i dont ask for something this deep and i get it and it makes my world great)
so what do u think i should do?
talk to him?
ignore him so he will miss me or need me
or any other solutions?
(dumping him is not on my list! neither in his list too.. we just have a bad communication together)
so .. any advices?
7 Answers to "Romance trouble?"
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life is too short. i was in a loveless relationship for a long time. and i wasted a lot of my time with him. so don't waste yours.
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Try couples counceling or ask a pastor to councel you and the guy, talk with him about this. Marriage counceling can be an effective tool when both parties are truely invested in making the relationship work.
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Stop looking for someone to "complete you!" You have to like and love yourself first. No one else can do that for you.
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I have a headache reading this
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Love doesn't need me, so why should I need love? Too far gone to care.
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You smell like salad.
Best Answer (Chosen By Asker):
Posted by Alterede Mar 12th, 2010 at 8:33AM
There is a difference between love and comfort.If you are giving and not receiving it really isn't good. Some guys are not very good at expressing love.your line about knownig he should giving love without you asking for it is right. Sorry to say it but it is a bad situation. You deserve to be loved and deserve to be able to give love. You say he doesnt need love... That is B.S. we all need love. The message I'm getting is that he doesn't need love from you. Don't stick with him because he is your comfort zone Cheating yourself of love because the boyfriend isn't very loving is a mistake. Go find someone who wants nothing more than to love you completely or someday you will regret cheating yourself of that. If you really want to be with him then go ahead and tell him how you feel. If he doesn't care then he doesn't care. If he thinks you are complaining ..tell him Damn right I'm complaining!... As much as you don't see moving on as an option you need to consider it. His reaction to your concerns should tell you a lot about where your relationship is going
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