Sex instead of marriage ....
Yes....because apparently there's none during...according to the hords of people in the "sexless marriage" groups!!!
i believe that sex should be reserved for marriage but not everyone is going to agree with me
YES! In my opinion you must. Must be sexually compatible and satisfied with your partner. If all else is great but it's not great in the sex dapartment you are fooling your self and your partner, so it can lead to marital problems= cheating. I used to think I could never be married and stay with one person if sex was not good, I love sex so much that I didn't wan to fall into the cheating catagory. But thanks heavens my husband rocks my world. And yes we had lots of sex before marriage.
No. Fornication is forbidden by the law of God.
And the law of God allows slavery, wife beating, and stoning your kid to death if they don't do what you say. So what's your point?
The Law of God permits none of the things you claim.
It depends on the individuals. Some wait, and that's fine. Some don't and that's fine too. As long as you're happy.
I'd say yes as it's important to know if you can meet each other's expectations.
I feel strongly that sex should be reserved for when you and at least one friend feel horny. Just play safe - no STI's and no unwanted pregnancies, take the obvious precautions.
Of course, id still be a virgin otherwise.
No. Unless you want to be emotionally broken.
In my day it was a definite 'no no' unless the girl was a 'tramp' or 'the local bicycle'! 'Heavy petting' was a far as any 'nice' girl would go, & that would usually necessitate an engagement-ring! Personally, I liked it that way, so my answer's a 'NO' to your question, but reckon I'll be in the minority! :-)
Sex after getting married
Years ago I would have said no. Today I still lean towards no because women are so damn gullible when it comes to a guy saying he loves her. You see gullible women on here frequently. "I thought he loved me, and then he took off with HER when he found out I was pregnant." <br />
Women are more emotionally and physically at risk than a man in the sexual arena. If she gets pregnant and keeps it, and he takes off, she is stuck raising the child alone -- not an easy task and one that greatly reduces her future marriage/financial security prospects. <br />
As far as trying out the merchandise to make sure you are comparable, the divorce courts are filled with relationships that started off in a blaze of glory (sometimes for years), only to be extinguished as soon as they said, "I do." Marriages ba<x>sed on true friendship out last marriages ba<x>sed on sexual passion. Good sex before marriage doesn't guarantee marital compatibility. <br />
The more sexual partners you have the greater the odds of contracting an STD -- maybe AIDS. <br />
When we are young, we believe we are invincible. We don't believe bad things will happen to us. We are idealistic and misty eyed. We take foolish risks. The old social taboos protected women from many of those risks and their unpleasant consequences. <br />
Today women can be single mothers without social condemnation which is great. They can own and control their own sexuality which is great. But for the most part, they are still naive, impressionable, and idealistic when young. If they are free with their body, some a$$ will abuses her love, uses her, and loses her, leaving her heart broken.<br />
I don't know anymore.
I like the part on being based on true friendship and sexual passion. But, I think, atleast in the initial years or as long as the sexual thirst lasts on both sides, sexual and emotional intimacy can go hand in hand to develop the strength of the relationship.
As to being gullible and impressionable, unless the girl is rural or doesn't have a basic education, the girls know well that they may be dumped, atleast theoretically they know it, with all the talk of it around them. Also, girls can dump boys after all the sweet talk as much as boys can dump girls. Yeah, I agree the kid part can make it worser and create complex issues when it happens to girls.
Yes, of course we should have sex before marriage. There is no sensible reason to abstain. I do not allow tyrannical con men to dictate to me. The upshot is that we are expected to pay a preacher a big fee for his permission to have sex. Well, he can go jump in the lake.
It is not funny that con men dominate people's lives and cause so much misery with it.
Definitely not.<br />
Marriage is an extremely intimate act that is not to be treated as lightly as most in society treat it today.
Lesbians? A civil union, at least...as it shows there is some kind of intent to stay with one another for the rest of your natural lives.
I strongly disagree. Where is your reasoning in this matter? Marriage is treaated too lightly, so let us just have sex without marriage.
Don't talk about reasoning and then crap all over it, please.
No ,you end up pay n in some way <br />
if you break God's rules
God and I don't really like each other.i
you on shoes before you buy them...no?
Sure, but talk first. Lots of talk. Agree on exclusivity. Agree on babies, wanted or unexpected. Agree on saying no. Wait, talk again, don't let your hormones take you farther than you want to go. Talk about what if one of you decides that marriage won't work after all. Talk about the morning after.
Yeah, they do talk helluva lot, but not such mature strategic talk I guess. :-)
Then I'd say they're not ready to get married, either. Just my opinion.