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Scenario of a date --- Ladies, would this be acceptable for you to make a next date with a guy (or girl)?

This guy you've been seeing has invited you over for a "Romantic Dinner" which consists of an "OK-ish" meal (nothing really special) served on GENERIC BRAND PAPER PLATES. Also you get a PLASTIC CUP, SPOON, AND FORK. ~~ This is not acceptable in my eyes at all. I would find this extremely triflin'. ~~ Now my co worker, today at work told me that this is how he prepares a meal for a date at his house. I asked him was he joking and was shocked when he told me that this is what he does. I asked him why not use real plates, especially since he says he's not that great of a cook. This man has NO REAL DISHES but has BEEN MEANING TO BUY SOME REAL DISHES FOR 2 YEARS. I asked him do the women still date him after that meal he give them and he told me yes and no depending on the women, but they most do continue to date him. He's not bad looking at all which is good, but that FIASCO he calls a date at his home is just NOT HAPPENING for me. --- He is NOT BROKE. He has money.

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LOL - Pretty lame way to impress a lady. It wouldn't work for me. I'd let him go ahead and date a woman who doesn't care.

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lostcancerian	Posted Sep 23rd, 2009 at 11:04PM dishes don't make the man. i'd cut him some slack- at least the guy "tried". sometimes our intentions are not as good as the final outcome. we cannot expect all other humans to have the same reasoning skills that we do, or expect emeril's when they offer us dinner. Rated: +3Vote for this!
lost12345	Posted Sep 25th, 2009 at 7:30PM I think this guy would appear to be cheap, unsuccessful, lazy and really wasteful. Now that our planet is focusing on "green" living at least greener -- the throwaway plates, cutlery and cups would just give off an impression of carelessness and ignorance. Not really someone I would be impressed with at all, good looking or not. Rated: +3Vote for this!
Nyxi	Posted Sep 23rd, 2009 at 11:05PM If someone was kind enough to invite me over for a meal that he took the time and effort to cook himself, I would feel quite honored . . . even if the meal was not served on the finest china with sterling flatware. Rated: +3Vote for this!
lifeseemstobealla bouttv	Posted Sep 25th, 2009 at 7:30PM sorry, warning, warning, okish meal,................warning, warning, i can read no further haha xx Rated: +3Vote for this!
solarxmoon	Posted Sep 25th, 2009 at 7:30PM personally, I wouldn't want to feel like I were killing a tree every time I let him cook for me. If I really liked him, I might continue to date him, but then I would have something about him that I want to change, which is never a good idea. Maybe I would buy him some real plates and see where it goes from there... Rated: +3Vote for this!
SeriouslySappy	Posted Sep 23rd, 2009 at 11:05PM I think I'm not picky enough. I would be more interested in the guy than the meal or table setting, but that's just me. Rated: +2Vote for this!
skipperbill	Posted Sep 25th, 2009 at 7:31PM Unless you were just there for a PB&J or a quickie I would say "RUN!" Rated: +2Vote for this!
tarquino	Posted Sep 25th, 2009 at 7:31PM Aounds like one of those secret millionaire dudes. It's just a test of your love for him, if he had served a gourmet meal on the finest china using an exquisite cutlery set, you would have suspected. Just play dumn and your prince will come. Maybe I've been watching to many Elvis fims. Rated: +2Vote for this!
urbrandofheroin	Posted Sep 25th, 2009 at 7:31PM Well, first off, it depends on how long we've been dating. If it is the first date, I'll think he's just trying to get me over there for sex. But if I really liked him, I would go out with him again under those circumstances. I like eating hotdogs and fries for dinner sometimes lol! Rated: +2Vote for this!
TheOnlyConstantIs Change	Posted Sep 25th, 2009 at 7:32PM Meh. If the guy put effort in everything but just ended up without clean dishes... I'd forgive him. Once. =P Rated: +2Vote for this!
WierdWill	Posted Sep 24th, 2009 at 3:28AM Come to think of it my fine china has "Dixie" written on the back of it. Rated: +2Vote for this!
lastleafoffall	Posted Sep 23rd, 2009 at 11:07PM I think its all rather trivial. The whole point of a date is to get to know the person better. If you're that turned off by it, then perhaps its best you don't attend. I'd find the fact that he put in the effort at all to be quite sweet. I'm a simple type, though. Rated: +2Vote for this!
softkitti	Posted Sep 23rd, 2009 at 11:07PM I would like the effort he put in making the dinner. The plates mean nothing to me its the man sitting behind the plate that is important. I have gone on really nice dates in in beautiful restaurants and wished I was anywhere else but there. Plates dont matter People do . Rated: +2Vote for this!
SummerWind18	Posted Sep 23rd, 2009 at 7:06PM Is he poor? If so I would understand and tolerate it. If it's so he doesn't have to do dishes...well I have tolerated that before already though I really shouldn't--that's lazy. But, it is the thought that counts, no? Does he have anything else to offer, like skill in poetry, songwriting, art, or personality? Rated: +1Vote for this!
wildflowr	Posted Sep 23rd, 2009 at 7:14PM Maybe its philosophical, his reason for paper plates and things. Maybe he enjoys girls if they are humorous in this way. (I don't know why it is humorous, it just is). But I could see the situation 2 ways, one way I could see it as a 'classy' thing with great conversation and thought... But if your guts say go with something else then I'd think to follow them. Rated: +1Vote for this!
shugabooga	Posted Sep 23rd, 2009 at 7:35PM reminds me of a dinner date with a guy once - he asked me if there was anything i DIDN'T like and i said green peppers. what did we have? green peppers on the pizza and green peppers in the salad. i guess if a guy did what your guy did, at my age, i would not be impressed at all. but if i really really liked the guy for other reasons, i'd give it another shot. especially if the other dates he'd taken me on were well-planned. but if the other dates hadn't been pleasant, this would be a deal breaker. Rated: +1Vote for this!
LaCajunLady	Posted Sep 23rd, 2009 at 7:37PM Okay.....my thoughts may be that he just moved in or.....he just moved on his own. If that is not the case then I may be a little old fashion but if you are cooking me dinner I want to eat on glass plates with metal fork, spoon and knife. I also don't want to drink out of paper cups!! I don't mind the take out so much. I know a lot of men aren't the best of cooks. LOL! Rated: +1Vote for this!
lilyiam07	Posted Sep 24th, 2009 at 3:30AM Screw that, I would kill for a man to ask me out and cook for me. That kinda stuff takes time and effort. Okay he isn't that great a cook, but he tried and maybe next time you can be in the kitchen giving him pointers. Which guy out there likes to do dishes, but I would hope that he wouldn't mind putting out some silverware and real plates for our first date. However if he's nice to you, works or is trying to find work, listens to you, and brushes his teeth then sweetie don't sweat the small stuff. Rated: +1Vote for this!
Leo21	Posted Sep 24th, 2009 at 4:35AM LOL. The things that some women nit-pick at amuse me. Yeah it's kind of weird he eats with plastic forks, knives and paper plates.. but if you like him give it a shot. However, that suggests to me to that he doesn't want to do dishes and is therefore a lazy person. Also when he said he's gonna buy dishes for over 2 years now.. well I don't know. When I say I'm gonna do something, I get it done. I don't like people who say they will do something but take forever to do it. Just some random thoughts. Rated: +1Vote for this!

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