I can identify with your reactions and I do think they are justified. But there is a sense that your relationship is going through troubled waters and it doesn`t always `settle` on it`s own. really think that it`s time to `take stock` of what you have and what is missing. This will surely lessen your expectations and the misery of being deceived. This really is a tough time for you, you can either toughen up and cope, or try to bring a change. My experience is that change seldom happens; he`s not grown like that over night and you could be asking for him to give something up for the family`s sake that he thinks is his. My advice is to stay strong, make your point, and weather the storm. Make decisions later from a position of strength. You seem to be floundering at the moment and need to wait for calmer waters.
yes, total over reaction. and very unappealing trait! so he's gone for the week. if you dislike that so much, you do the same? next week or the week after just go for a 'surprise' spa trip with your friends. Seriously life is too short and precious for these types of misunderstandings and ****. you need to chill.
aw well if he's working hard then let him have a break, i understand about the bills, but like i said next weekend you go off somewhere for a break and let him look after the kids :)