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Should I apologize to him?

My friends husband was flirting with me a few days ago. I let the friend know about it, and she understandably got very upset. He says it was only a joke. I had told him I never get mad, and he was attempting to prove me wrong. Should I apologize for the trouble I caused him? I feel completely justified in going to my friend about it (what if it had been for real?), but I can understand his anger. I personally don't like him, but since he is married to my friend I would like for the two of us to at least be civil to each other, since I'll obviously be seeing him a lot.
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Skuttles
Posted Jun 17th, 2009 at 7:59AM
Apoligize? For what? Joking or not, he was out of line. You did the right thing by being honest with your friend. He is just mad at you because you told her. Heck no, do not apoligize for being straight up and honest with your friend. I would like to have a friend in my life just like you. You have qualities that all women want in a friendship. My hat is off to you.
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geenpunchbuggie
Posted Jun 17th, 2009 at 7:18AM
you shouldn't have said anything. this has caused unnecessary hurt. you should apologize to the both of them and lay low for awhile.
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Amadis
Posted Jun 17th, 2009 at 3:54AM
your apologize won't make your friend forget about the all thing, the damage is irreparable. you did wrong, but apologize won't do anything.

(if you can follow advice: next time tell the guy, whoever is he, that you're not going to accept flirts with a friend's partner. and keep it quiet)
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SummerBaby212
Posted Jun 17th, 2009 at 3:58AM
Dont say sorry to him. he was the one who came on to you, atleast you was honest with your friend shows you are a true friend .
he will most proberbly get found out anyway if he does it to any more women, just forget about him, but dont forget about your friend, why shoul you what have you two done wrong to have him come between you?
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Joyce777
Posted Jun 17th, 2009 at 4:17AM
His Anger is because it was FOR REAL. You were right to go to your friend, your loyalty is to HER not to him. He probably does this to MANY girls anyway so your friend needed to know.
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Mehonestly
Posted Jun 17th, 2009 at 4:32AM
Don't apologize to him, just let it go he's not worth the hassle its your friend that counts and if she's ok just leave it.
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Looba
Posted Jun 17th, 2009 at 5:11AM
This is difficult because she is in the middle, you should just keep a distance and explain to your friend that he makes you feel uncomfortable and even though nothing goes on you don't even want to be in that predicament and it isn't actually worth it. Being civil is "Hi Bye, how are you?" Ect. Thats all there really needs to be, she should understand. Don't apologise to him! Or her for his mistakes!
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edgargeorge
Posted Jun 17th, 2009 at 6:47AM
He's just mad because he got caught -- it is his way of saving face. If you feel right in what you did, no apologies are necessary. But that doesn't mean you need to over compensate one way or the other. Just be yourself when your around him, and let him own his problems, if any, with you.
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meteorite
Posted Jun 18th, 2009 at 6:52AM
Id be happy I wasnt married to HIM. What a jerk. You did the right thing by telling your friend-if she wants to end the friendship thats her choice -you have to respect it.
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rusted
Posted Jun 18th, 2009 at 7:03AM
Some people like to pretend that their spouse doesn't do anything remotely appearing to be unfaithful. Telling them shatters that belief.
Leave it alone.
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twiwhat
Posted Jun 18th, 2009 at 2:04PM
Yes, but apologize for the conflict it caused, not for your own particular actions. You were spot on!
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Shoreboy
Posted Jun 18th, 2009 at 8:57PM
Apologize to your friend for causing the 'friction' and her attitude will tell you if you owe him an apology... odds are... you did the right thing.
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