Yeah, I think it is normal to feel hurt. Similar thing happened to me. My oldest friend, since Grade 4 (still very close friends today) and were (are) very close friends through all our schooling and university days. 25 years later, I chose him as my best man when I got married in 2009, it was any easy decision I did not even think about anyone else, we had even discussed years earlier that our long-standing friendship was best-man type stuff. Three years after I got married in 2009 then he got married and I wasn't even in the wedding party. I even flew from Europe leaving my family behind to Australia to attend the wedding.
I would be hurt too, I probably wouldn't turn up at all but I guess that is a bad reaction too, but I can understand why you feel more than a little put out.
good answer, that is the responsible thing to do, maybe he thought you wouldn't make it or something, it might be good to ask him when you see him.
Yes, you should feel offended. The same thing happened to me, and it is terrible. It's a situation that you can't do much about, and especially as a guy you shouldn't say anything about it. It is basically a statement from that person that they don't consider you to be a friend anymore. I was extremely insulted
I would just turn up and ob
Save yourself the expense of a gift. Do something else that day. If he asks why you didn't turn up, tell him you were washing your hair.
I fear you're a lost cause.
No .. it's all good. Realities are that you can only have so many of your friends and family in your wedding party. AND, it could have something to do with the number of attendants his fiancee' is having .. I think it needs to be the same number for walking down the aisle.
If you're a good friend, you won't put any more pressure on this guy. Getting married is exciting .. but stressful. I think he needs you more to be supportive of HIS day than worrying about your role in it.
This happened to my husband once. Your friend perhaps belongs to a family that has strong expectations about who should be in a bridal party. My husband was the groom's very best friend, but the best man had to be Italian and the other groomsmen had to be personal friends of the whole family.
Ah yeah. I would for definite be offended.
No you're not being silly , I would be hurt too . We have to stop letting people who aren't worth having some control over our emotions .
I am begining to realise I'd rather know where I stand than think I belong somewhere I don't .