Should I be worried if I ask my bf to call if he going to stay out late and it already 1030pm and he hasn't?

yes mummy, I'll call

Lately I've read alot of relationship questions that make me wonder if t he person is REALLY as old as they claim on their profile, OR are there just a lot of immature people on this site. I know I'm an overgrown kid myself at times, but geez.

what age is your boyfriend - 13?

Some people, not only men, don't consider what they say as being LIKE they said it exactly. If I were you, I'd let him live. If it happens again, make him understand you're not his b*tch.

If he said he'd call he should. Leet him know you were worried, not that you don't trust him (unless you don't)

He's probably trying to assert his independence. Not every man enjoys being under his girlfriend's thumb. I wouldn't wait up if I were you.

I've had this lately and we don't live together but he has keys to my flat. Told him not to come round if it's after midnight.... of course he did and big argument. Tempted to get keys back.

Not sure what to advise really but understand your p****ed off about it.

he is probably ok, but could have called if he promised.
so not worried, but upset

NO. HE IS THE MAN OF THE HOUSE NOT U. DONT BUG HIM!!

Ladies we are talking about men! Most don't own a watch unless it's for the football game. Let's face it, they are having way too much fun to call, and would be totally uncool in front of their friends. They would definately be considered pussywhipped, lol, by their friends that snuck to the bathroom to call their women. If your worried about their being faithful, calling isn't going to keep them faithful, might have the opposite effect actually. If you were with your friends having fun, would you like to have to stop what your doing and go call your man, to check in? Most look at it like that. Be secure, it's give and take, I know it's hard to not worry, but your not mom. Unfortunately, if something happens you'll probably be the first to know, so go to sleep and be cool. If you think he's cheating, then beat it, you don't need it.

Honey, I understand where you are coming from. I am lucky and blessed that my man finally saw that I would worry when he used to stay out late, and wouldn't call. I had extreme anxiety behind this. It's been years since he's gone anywhere now, but to work. And he calls all through out his four hour shift, and when he's on his way home. But after 24 years, things are bound to change.

A) since when is 1030 late? you guys might need to discuss what time 'late' is, when i ask my fiance to let me know if he is staying out late, that usually means after 3am and I ask him to check in because i worry about his safety after that point, knowing that he will be drunk and possibly driving or with friends who are drunk driving
B) i agree with lulu
C) guys dont understand the meaning of a phone call sometimes, for us, it is meant to calm our nerves and make us feel safe, but for them, it may just be annoying. i used to get very upset when my fiance would tell me hed call, and wouldn't, and he wouldn't get home until 6. then i found out that he never called bc he was at ***** clubs and thought i'd get p*ssed. now we are honest and open and i don't care what he does as long as he let's me know. take a chill, relax, and go have fun of your own! you are only young once, live it up while you can.

Difficult question the time question , how long is a good time when does it start and more importantly when does it finish ? so when will you be home putting a time on things could lead to feelings of constraint and control very tricky issue if you ask me ....

10.30 is early and sometimes if he is with his mates he may genually forget.

my boyfriend walks home after being at mine, which can sometimes be rather late at night, and its an hours wal;k from mine to his and he always sends me a text when he gets in so i know hes safe. one night he didnt text and i was up till1 in the morning worrying untill i finally called up, had his step dad answer the phone rather sleepily (waking up the whole house which included two teenagers who had school the next day and his mum who had work at 7) and found out that he was asleep in his bed. i didnt say much on the phone btuthe next day he had an ear full from me, i was so worried i was crying most of the night. i thought he had been hurt or something.

Unless there was a specifically agreed upon time THAT night that you would like (not EXPECT as that is for children not adults) a phone call just to reassure you that nothing bad has happened you open the door to mis-understanding. How 'late' is late after all? I do call my wife if something is going to interfere with my coming home in a 'planned time frame' i.e dinner and a move changes into dinner, a movie, and going out for drinks, etc. afterwards and she does the same. We both do this as we simply feel it is 'uncaring' to cause the other to worry unnecessarily. Particularly now that we have young children we both will call even if something is just going to delay us from coming home from work significantly later than normal. Before we had kids when one of us was 'going out' with our friends with no set plans the other assumed that meant you would get home... whenever you got home. If you aren't coming home at all a phone call was definitely warranted because that would cause a relative panic which wasn't fair to the other partner.

when i was younger if they didnt come in buy 12 midnight that was concidered a new day so stay out i lock my screen and bolted my doors and packed bags. now I dont care he know when they finish using him they will send him howm.