Should I encourage my mother to get the divorce she wants? She can't stand living with my father anymore.
My mother can't stand living with my father anymore, and she talks to me and my sister about it a lot. She's aware of the fact that it's wrong to do so, and a lot of family members have told her not to, but she says she needs to vent or she's gonna fall apart or have a nervous breakdown.
My parents got a divorce twice so far, the first time they got back together because we were kids and such, and the second time a family member intervened and tried fixing stuff up. My mother agreed to go back to my father for our sake, but now she's regretting that decision. Yet everyone she talks to tells her to keep at it and not get a divorce for the kids' sake (my brother, sister and I).
Initially my mother got divorced because of so many reasons, some of them are that my father is a lazy bum and he never goes to work, tho she admits she contributed to this because she justified it for him and told him that "it's okay, we have money, you can sit back today."
He's really paranoid and suspects every action any body does, no matter how trivial or insignificant it is.
He doesn't really provide for the family and we're living on debts from a helluva lot of people.
Things are really way worse than the simple stuff I just talked about, but I'm more concerned about how I should act right now, not about getting sympathy and pitying. I only explained the reasons so there would be a clear perspective.
It doesn't seem like they would go back together if they got a divorce again anyway, my mother really can't stand him, and he's holding a grudge against her for the way she talked to him during the last divorce.
Would their separation be better for all of us?