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Should I feel left out? Am I being selfish? - I'm trying not to feel left out, but I do!

Me and my mum had planned a day out shopping together today when she dropped off my little brother at nursery. Before she took my brother to nursery, my sister who has had a baby came over to say hello. She went with my mum to take my brother to nursery, and then she came back with my mum. My mum said we will go soon, so I went to get ready. After I got ready my mum said we weren't going anymore. I almost feel like she changed her mind because my sister was here, as I feel my sister is favoured by my mum. I am going away on Friday and my sister was meant to be coming over for the day, and staying the night then. So shopping today was meant to be mine and my mums time. I don't know I just feel a bit down now as I was excited to spend some time with her.

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8 Answers to "Should I feel left out? Am I being selfish? - I'm trying not to feel left out, but I do!"

  1. 8pops - 31-35 years old - female

    Posted by 8pops Sep 29th, 2012 at 2:45PM

    If you feel it then its happening, ive learned youve just got to accept that your not the favourite one and dont let it eat you up. people are selfish and parents have their favourites although they shouldnt and people like to just please themselves all the time, thats just life and people, its just the way it is.

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  2. KidTeen - 13-15 years old

    Posted by KidTeen Aug 28th, 2012 at 7:41AM

    No it's not selfish at all. Really, I know how you feel. :/ *pats you on the back*

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  3. SanJoseNativeMe - 61-65 years old

    Posted by SanJoseNativeMe Aug 2nd, 2012 at 3:38AM

    Not selfish at all.

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  4. NeverFindMoi - 22-25 years old - male

    Posted by NeverFindMoi Jul 25th, 2012 at 7:17AM

    As a guy, I don't think it's a big issue. I would never want to go shopping with my mam. lol
    But on a serious note, I think you are being a bit too delicate about this. You can spend time with her in others ways that don't involve spending her money.

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  5. VirgoTheArtyFarty - 18-21 years old - female

    Reply by VirgoTheArtyFarty Jul 25th, 2012 at 7:26AM

    Since when did I say she was going to spend money on me. I have my own money thanks, I don't sponge of my mum.

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  6. brighterbyday - 22-25 years old - female

    Posted by brighterbyday Jul 25th, 2012 at 7:07AM

    I think you are fully justified in your feelings, I get in a lot of fights with my mom, because I feel like she favors my brothers.

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  7. findinghanna - 36-40 years old - female

    Posted by findinghanna Jul 25th, 2012 at 7:04AM

    Your not being selfish, you had looked forward to one on one time with your mum. It's natural to feel sad, I hope your whole day is not ruined. Do something special for yourself, you deserve to be kind to yourself.

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  8. VirgoTheArtyFarty - 18-21 years old - female

    Reply by VirgoTheArtyFarty Jul 25th, 2012 at 7:08AM

    It's just like their having their time together on friday when I go away, they are going out for a meal. Worse thing is is that my sister is leaving now, and we don't have enough time to go shopping for a few hours now as my mum has to pick up my little brother at 3:30, so it's too late now. The day is ruined. :(

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  9. findinghanna - 36-40 years old - female

    Reply by findinghanna Jul 25th, 2012 at 7:19AM

    I'm sorry, I can tell it meant a lot to you. Life sure does not seem fair sometimes.

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  10. micia73 - 36-40 years old - female

    Posted by micia73 Jul 25th, 2012 at 6:55AM

    I'd talk to her and explain how I felt about the whole situation.

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  11. VirgoTheArtyFarty - 18-21 years old - female

    Reply by VirgoTheArtyFarty Jul 25th, 2012 at 6:55AM

    She will think I'm being silly, she always does!

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  12. VirgoTheArtyFarty - 18-21 years old - female

    Reply by VirgoTheArtyFarty Jul 25th, 2012 at 6:56AM

    And selfish.

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  13. leftmarks - 31-35 years old - female

    Posted by leftmarks Jul 25th, 2012 at 6:53AM

    Not selfish. Everyone needs their own personal time with one that they value.

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