Should I feel left out?

That is a loaded situation.

I would say that you should feel left out... you are letting your children and he is letting your children control your lives. If you are married, you move the kids where you and your husband want to be. You don't remain separated for the sake of the kids! As for the mortgage expenses and such, well if you have expenses with your kids than he obviously has expenses with his kids (do you send him money?).

I don't know if I were you I would reevaluate your relationship and find a way to be together under one roof, with one mortgage and one family. This separation stuff, only seems to work for the divorced couple, it is insane that you are married and in this situation.

Wow! I am sorry you are in this situation. I think you have every right to feel left out. I do not think it's jealousy hon. Maybe just resentment at the entire situation. Good luck! *hugs!

While I think he should help take care of his kids, it is not right that he is not taking care of you.......his wife........wait...just read your question again...........you and your husband live in different states???? Something needs to change in your situation..that is just not right.......good luck and we are all here for you!!

well i cant blame you if you feel that way because your husband dont do his responsibilities to you, you're his wife and you need his supports whether its financial/emotional etc. and u shouldn't let this happened in first place meh, u should know ur right as his wife, best of luck

Your HUSBAND should put YOU FIRST in ALL matters. If he does not then get rid of him. You should put your husband before your kids also. Sounds like there really is no marriage there anyway. HE is MARRIED to his kids!

No, I would feel that way too. That's innapropriate of him and I'd DEFINATELY tell him, "if you continue acting this way we are going to have HUGE problems in this marriage, understand?" If after explaining how you feel and what he needs to do to change, and he still doesn't, then you ahve no choice but to divorce him--hopefully it won't come to that. His selfishness is a huge problem here.

He's your husband and he doesn't help you pay your mutual bills? That doesn't sound like a husband to me, more of a mooch. Dump him