Should I get back involved with a past relationship? A few details about reconnecting with an old flame from my past.
We spent 8 years together
I broke it off because he cheated on me.
He had the tendency to be wishy washy with me, his goals, ideas, and future.
3 years later- (3 months ago)we figured we would reconnect.
Note: I did not want to hear about any women he dated while we were not together, nor did I want to tell him about any man I dated-
I wanted to see if we could move forward.... considering we are now 30 yrs. old- I thought we were older and wiser.
In this time period he was all about me...
Calling me 3 times a day
Telling me he missed his best friend (me)
Talking about possible future plans
Now... he is flaking out.
Going out with his friends to bars, traveling with friends, calling less, texting less, less kindness and endearment in his tone and words...
And 2 nights ago he told me that he has a big fear that he won't be able to make me happy. He wants me to accept him for his he is...
In fact, he said he was working on the background music for a song he wrote over a year ago. He told me that I would not be happy if I heard the lyrics- Apparently he wrote about a girl who he had a fling with- a flirting session, intimacy etc...
I was furious.... I mean, he agreed to work on this. Move forward from the pain we caused on another. Instead he is rubbing **** in my face all over again.
I told him... maybe we should just work on respect and a friendship.
He made it very hard for me- told me he cared about me soo much and it was just a song. You are the one that I have love for he said.
I clearly stated that "this" song brings me pain. He's telling me that you want me to be honest don't you?
What do I do?
And the brief romance he had and wrote about must of been some romance for him to write about.
In fact...why wouldn't I think he was thinking about that girl he had the fling with...
Especially if he is working on background music for her song?
This Sucks. I really thought he grew up.... guess he just does not get it
3 Answers to "Should I get back involved with a past relationship? A few details about reconnecting with an old flame from my past."
Posted by sheer22 Aug 1st, 2012 at 1:22PM
Once is enough. You did your part..but it is not going anywhere..You are still hurting..let go and move on. It's not gonna be easy but that is the best option.
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Posted by KenWX Oct 9th, 2011 at 6:57PM
Never go back. There is no going back, it never works. Even Burton & Taylor couldn't make it work.
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Posted by hertoy Oct 9th, 2011 at 6:50PM
You can never go home...you can never go back.
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