Should I have any care in the world whether my Dad sees a therapist about my abuse by my step-brother?
I told my Mom and Dad about my abuse my step-brother did to me; I want my Dad to see a therapist, but tells me 'he's handling it' himself, talking to my Mom about it... but then he tells me, sobbing (which is really rare; Mewtwo-rare), how sorry he is about not knowing or doing anything about that abuse.
I don't know if I should continue pushing for him to see a Therapist or just not care unless he's in a heavy depression. I just want him to live a better existence and have that off his back.
4 Answers to "Should I have any care in the world whether my Dad sees a therapist about my abuse by my step-brother?"
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He needs a therapist and just saying he will handle it will not work. If you live in the US United Way offers a program called Peaceful Solutions. They also offer psychotherapy. Money should not be a concern: they offer very low rates and if cost quoted is too high he can simply tell them. Most times its like $10-$30. Most therapist these days run about $150 per session. He needs help and if he wont you might consider involving other people, yourself. You shouldn't have to, but you might.
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Thank you very much for the info. It's not easy cause he is stubborn and just... ugh, me being on the other side of the country doesn't help. But I'll definitely use the info you gave me. Thank you again.
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Offer your forgiveness to him, first. He may feel guilty for not helping you, and forgiveness might ease some of that pain.
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Can you do a joint therapy session with a psychiatrist or counselor, so that you both can be honest and supportive toward each other? If there's a trained, neutral third person, that individual can guide the conversation and help you both to understand how to proceed.
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Encourage him once more, but don't push him too hard.Like (1)
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The thing is, I'm on one side of the country and he's on the opposite side We could do a Skype thing, but first, he has to be willing for that. I just want to know whether I should care whether or not he gets the help he needs. He tells me, "You shouldn't have to worry about me. You have your Life to live, I'm old so I've handled this before"... stubborn old man.
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Yes, you should definitely care. He's your father, and you seem to be a good son. :D
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What kind of abuse did your brother cause you?... And how long ago was it, if it was when you were a kid and you are now in our thirties then it might be time to let bygones be bygones... Did he beat you up?
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No. Not just beat up. More than that. Think about it. Some things still affect and need to be brought to light. Only then can the Darkness go away for good.
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Posted by AnonymousButCandid Feb 2nd, 2013 at 5:54PM
If you are aware that your father is in depression, and that psychotherapy may help, you may offer your two cents. After all, you are in your late twenties, so feel free to speak to Dad, man to man.
Cheers,
AnonymousButCandid
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Reply by LysanderFremont Feb 2nd, 2013 at 6:39PM
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