Should I keep my baby? 20 yrs old & 9 weeks pregnant a abortion appt on wed but I feel rly bad. No money to raise a kid

That's a decision you will have to make for yourself, there is really no one who can make it for you.

This is speaking from someone who has had an abortion, two miscarriages and a child.

I just want to say that the Best Answer chosen is the absolute best answer I've ever seen regarding abortion issues.

You would be surprised how parents who think they cannot afford a child just do. They do what they are supposed to do and somehow just make it. Everyone thinks they cannot afford children. On that note...if people waited until they were financially ready to have a child then I'm thinking we would be extinct by now.

Do you have a support system? Family, friends, the father, his family? No doubt you are scared. But having a child is a miracle and for some reason, God chose you to give birth to this child. If you have an abortion you will regret it every day. Another option is adoption. This baby deserves a chance. Don't make him or her pay for your irresponsibility. Mistakes happen. It's time to grow up and deal with the fact that you will be a mom soon. God chose you for a reason. Remember that.

Keep your appointment

why kill your innocent baby because you wouldnt be responsible and use protection so you wouldnt get pregnant, you got no money to raise a kid will ask the father to help out , he helped make the baby so get him to man up and help

That is a question only you can answer.

You need to think about this for yourself. I would say follow your heart, do not be guilted into doing anything you do not want to do.

If you want to keep your baby, keep it, and you will find a way to make it work. There is never an easy time to have a baby, I dont care who you are. If you want this baby, keep it.

If you can carry the child and give it to a loving family, do that.

If you know it isnt time and know that you want an abortion, do it, and do not have regrets. Do not listen to anyone who will judge you.

This choice is yours. And I have to add, please start using birth control, no matter what you choose to do about this pregnancy, please use birth control.

If you're in Oklahoma, you don't have a choice anyway... Adoption or Child Services, where there are already thousands of unadopted children living on government assistance, not a family structure, the Government.

Listen, some of these answers are incredible and very sensitive and don't take the holier than thou approach. I have had one abortion, and not two months later, I was pregnant again with my son, whom I kept. I had the abortion and my parents forced it on me, without giving me so much a chance to even think... The second time, well I was a young teenager and not the most responsible of people with my birth control...

All that being said, the abortion was hard at first, but I do not believe it was hard, because it was such a terrible thing to me... I believe that it was hard because everyone said it was supposed to be a horrible thing. I am a psychologist, and basically a embryo is nothing but a mass of cells, kinda like a tumor, until neurons start to fire in the brain. For pro-lifers, they consider life to begin at the point of conception, but we kill off larger masses of cells like that all the time. Once the baby has neural activity, that constitutes a life... Think about Terry Schizvo who was taken off of life support because ono brain activitiy... yup same thing....
Do not beat yourself up over some morals that holy rollers or other people impose on you. If you cannot raise a baby and take care of it, I do not believe that your life is somehow just going to work itself out in order to make that happen. I had my son, and it was probably too hard for a young woman to handle on her own--especially with little income. We made it through, but only after years of depending on my mom, who was not exactly emotioally supportive. I will not lie to you, it was the most emotionally taxing experience of my life, and I still struggle with some of the demon I acquired from that period in my life, where I always felt like I wasn't doing enough. I am glad now that I have my son, but life can be so much easier if you wait until you are ready. I tell you that I am glad that I have my son and I am... Can't imagine a life without him, but that is because he is a full fledged person at this point, and we built a relationship. If I was in your shoes again knowing what I know now, the outcome may have been different, because I know how much I struggled, but not just me..... my son as well. Is the dad in the picture, because my son's was not, and he still struggle with abandonment issues, as I do. You have to listen to your heart and tune out all the BS others try to impose on you. Tell the supermoral people to shut up because I am not buying that they are any better or any superior than you are. In fact, people love to pass around opinions and judgments about things they have no idea about. Hey jackass who gave her the whole, grow up and take birth control spiel... I am sure that you are ever so perfect. I doubt that your life has been smooth sailing and you've never found yourself in a tough situation.... And, if you have been, then congrats to you being super sheltered so it could provide you just the right tools to be a complete ***.

go with the path that haz heart. whatever you do, follow the path with heart. i can not stress this enough. ignore all the pro-lifers and anyone else here who is telling you what to do. only the path with heart is the easiest one.

Trust me....You will feel alot worse after the Abortion. There are so many Couple's out there that would love to raise your child. Please dont terminate your baby that God gave you.