So you met the guy ,started having relationship that led to marriage for however long.You have tried "changing" his behaviour numerous times & to please you he does for a day "then go back to being himself and I'm getting tiered of it" .Ever get tired of how shallow you are,how fake you are.Arggh I really dont get this womens thing of going the whole journey with a guy before it just happens to maybe seem important enough to raise the point with him...that they didn't/don't like you for who you are.Of course the moronic decision to hide that little chestnut due to YOUR NEED to change him or YOUR BELIEF that you even could,had you been straight up from the start could have saved a lot of wasted time,heartache & to some the only window of oppurtunity to meet "the one".Do him a favour & just go.Do the rest of us blokes a favour & stay locked in a room by yourself!!!!!
you are wanting change now to things you dont like.where were you pre-marriage?asleep?
thats Mr. to you!
Just break up with him, he doesn't need to be hurt anymore then that.
As someone going through something similar. What you seem to be saying is he is really making you unhappy, but really some of his behaviors bug the crap out of you but overall he is a pretty good guy. He has really done nothing to warrant a breakup. Perhaps there is a family member who can't think bad of you. Is there someone else you love or think you could love. Something has you thinking of an extreme method which could probably be cleared up with a simple conversation and some true honesty. If you guys can't work it out then you are not right for one another and you should cut one another loose. Chances are there are some things you do that bugs him also. It can't be a one sided proposition.
None of this type stuff gets easier with time it only turns to resent.
I wouldn't consider it lying to him, it's being honest and respectful and without that you don't have a marriage. Marriage even today is a vow of commitment between two people and you over stepped the boundaries give your husband the respect he deserves and tell him what you did. It is his choice if he leaves you and not yours.
Sounds like neither of you is happy with the other, but you don't want to leave each other because then the other person will finally improve and some new person will get the improved version after all the time you invested!
You need to learn to communicate.
Lying is rarely the best choice. Have you done any marriage counseling?
I would highly recommend it. A counselor can help you figure out how to have a healthier relationship.
if you don't want to be with him tell him. to many people bullshit these days. you'll find things get a lot simpler when your straight up with people.
Try your best to be honest. If its not going to work out and you have your mind set on it, the sooner the better.
No! If you want him to leave, be honest and tell him so.
File for divorce, and move out.
It is. When you are TRULY fed up, you will do it.