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Should I stay with my live-in boyfriend, or leave him and our life to see if I'm a lesbian?

I've been with my current boyfriend for over two years, and we are currently living together and attending college.

I'm 20 and he's 22.

Recently I've been confused about my sexual orientation. I don't feel any sexual attraction to my boyfriend. I think I may actually be a lesbian.

But dispite all of this, my boyfriend is my very best friend. Even though in some ways I find that we are incompatible (such as our money habits) I love him. I don't want to hurt him.

I also find that it is convenient to stay in our relationship. Why fix what isn't broken?

He's a very good person and he loves me a lot.

What should I do? I feel so confused. It seems to be all I think about, but I want to do the right thing.

Should I stay or should I go?
Posted 5 months ago
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Not feeling any sexual attraction to your boyfriend could stem from many reasons. But if you aren't feeling it, you aren't feeling it. I say take the opportunity to explore, and cherish what you had with him.
Posted 5 months ago

Other 7 Answers to Should I stay with my live-in boyfriend, or leave him and our life to see if I'm a lesbian?


unicorn59
Posted Jun 25th, 2009 at 8:35AM
You should go....TO A COUNSELOR.... they can help you sort out all the orientation issues, you're having....and you can do that, without leaving a great guy, until you're sure of what it is you want.
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steveshurtleff
Posted Jun 25th, 2009 at 11:12AM
Step one is to tell him what's going on. If he's as good to you as you say he is, he will support you in your search.
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nighthorse
Posted Jun 25th, 2009 at 5:03PM
Both you and your BF deserve love...he should have someone who loves and desires him, you should too. Wouldn't you hate to have someone stay with you because it's easier?
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carmm
Posted Jun 25th, 2009 at 10:14AM
Well People go thought things when it comes to sex.
Many young people try the swinging thing with guy & girls.
Does not mean your lesbian. Seek council. It may pass. And don't let some strong Butch sway you. Talk to a God of your understanding. What would you tell your daughter?
Give time, Time..
Good luck & God Bless you
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tallboy61
Posted Jun 25th, 2009 at 10:15AM
dont rush into this . Have you tried wearing comfortable shoes and watching tennis as a tester ? .
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balboaguy
Posted Jun 25th, 2009 at 8:52AM
See a doc and get hormones checked....they are off balance.

all the best
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rusted
Posted Jun 25th, 2009 at 4:43PM
Are you gay or bi? Does your boyfriend know this about you?
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