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I just started dating this guy a couple of weeks ago. I can tell he's really into me just like I am him. He asked me where I wanted things to go and I told him he was the only guy I wanted to date. I'm currently going through a divorce (been separated 5 months & haven't dated) and told him I didn't want to move too fast because of that. He told me he understood. It's obvious how he feels about me from the way he's always staring or watching me, already introduced me to his friends, asking if I've talked about him to my friends/family, said he wants to spend everyday with me if I will let him, and makes it a point to remember all the different foods and drinks that I like. I want to tell him how I feel about him but don't know if I should wait on him to make the first move. I feel like he's holding back because of me telling him I want to take things slow.
BETTERDAYS2COME BETTERDAYS2COME 41-45 14 Answers Mar 12, 2010

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I would just let nature take it's course sometimes saying too much or too little can screw things up. Just go with your heart, don't make plans.

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Most men love a good mystery so no I wouldnt tell him until he showed me first.Life has taught me to pay attention to what men do not what they say.So I say wait and see.

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I'm thinking if you are in the middle of a divorce maybe you should give yourself some time to breath before jumping back in so soon

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My advice to you is to take it very slowly... two questions to consider....<br />
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a.-How many other men have you dated since seperating from your husband ?<br />
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If you haven't dated much...Be wary of how you feel...judgement can be cloudy early after a long-term relationship ends. <br />
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b. Do you REALLY want to be in another close relationship so soon ?<br />
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often, we become so comfortable with having our spouses around every day, that we find it hard to be alone, dont allow this out of fear of being alone....please!<br />
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I can tell you from direct personal experience that it's possible to make a huge mistake... It's also possible that it could be the one in a thousand chance that it works out wonderfully. Be careful.<br />
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These are just my thoughts... good luck with whatever you choose.. Sometimes we have to listen to our heads and not our wounded heart.

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You should wait....<br />
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I say this, because you are not even officially divorced, so I wouldn't get too involved too quick, just like your first instinct......it would be sad if you did, and he ended up being a rebound guy.....<br />
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Relax...take things slow...if he's the one, it will all work out....he'll stick around....you both sound just a little too eager.

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You've only been separated five months, this poor guy is going to be the rebound. Wait about 7more months.

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Nothing ventured; Nothing gained

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It is probably best that you stick to telling him you want to take things slowly. If you are going through a divorce right now it really isn't the time to jump into another serious relationship at least not until the divorce is final.

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I agree with Vlowery and I also want to add that if you already told him that you want to take your time, then stick with that. Don't go rushing into somthing blindley and end up ina hole. Give yourself time before you jump in because not all divorces are pleasant and I'm sure you don't want him dragged into the middle of it and that is a big relationship buster =o)

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yes.

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