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Should I tell someone in a relationship that I m crazy about them...when they have already told me?

I m trying to do the right thing by not telling them how I feel. It is quite early in their relationship.
He has already made it clear he is interested but very confused. We met before their relationship began, yet I wasn t ready for anything then. I feel he is fishing for me to tell him how I feel.
Yet I have simply said you re a great guy talk to me if you re ever single. The reality is I m crazy about the guy...there is something possibly quite special there.

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9 Answers to "Should I tell someone in a relationship that I m crazy about them...when they have already told me?"

  1. RobSedona - 56-60 years old - male

    Posted by RobSedona Sep 21st, 2012 at 7:51AM

    Yes you should tell him. Or lose him to someone else.

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  2. rudedevil01 - 51-55 years old - male

    Posted by rudedevil01 Sep 21st, 2012 at 7:28AM

    Wait until you are ************ together ,it will be more believable

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  3. Idonwannadie - 46-50 years old - male

    Posted by Idonwannadie Sep 21st, 2012 at 8:51AM

    Be honest and true to yourself. And as I read it, that means you should tell. But do not expect anything from him. Not because he won't give up his friend, but low expectations, don't put burdens on people, and keep your possible hurt to a minimum. Also, give him space. If he is confused already, he needs space to unconfuse.

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  4. TheRightFitforLife - 46-50 years old - female

    Posted by TheRightFitforLife Sep 21st, 2012 at 7:58AM

    Tell him, tell him, tell him! Before it's too late. Only live once...especially since he's already expressed feelings for you, AND he's not in deep yet with the other person. What have you got to lose????

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  5. JoeEDangerously - 26-30 years old - male

    Posted by JoeEDangerously Sep 21st, 2012 at 7:53AM

    I think you should. He might want to be with you rather than his current partner and is that really fair? Think about the person with him. Is it fair to let the relationship continue as is? This guy might like you better. How fair is that to the other person in the relationship? They might be with someone who would rather be with someone else. Don't you think it's better to let him make a decision with all the facts?

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  6. jessikahhh16 - 16-17 years old - female

    Posted by jessikahhh16 Sep 21st, 2012 at 7:32AM

    if you have feelings let them be expressed :)

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  7. Vessa - 41-45 years old - female

    Posted by Vessa Sep 21st, 2012 at 7:31AM

    If he is involved, then you might tell him how you feel, but afterward, back off. Tell him you do not date involved men, and that he has to decide what he is going to do. Until that point, it would be a good idea to keep things at a definite friendship level...or even to avoid anything more than the lightest conversation.
    Involved means hands off. Then it will be up to him to make up his mind about what he wants to do, but if he is in a relationship with someone, then he should break that off before he ends up cheating. Flirting with you, especially since he knows you have feelings, would be wrong.

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  8. ithappenedtome2 - 36-40 years old

    Reply by ithappenedtome2 Sep 21st, 2012 at 7:43AM

    He knows I am interested...but he doesn t know how strongly I feel...should i tell him or leave it how it is?

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  9. Vessa - 41-45 years old - female

    Reply by Vessa Sep 21st, 2012 at 10:24AM

    I would leave it. Relationships shouldn't be like multiple choice options, and he should not choose to leave someone because someone else is a "better answer". If he loves the one he is with, then that is where he should be...and loyally. If he doesn't love her, then he should leave the relationship....your interest should not be the catalyst for what he decides to do.

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  10. iyqbi - 22-25 years old

    Posted by iyqbi Sep 21st, 2012 at 7:31AM

    no!don't tell them that you are crazy,but take his heart technically

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  11. majorlatency - 46-50 years old - male

    Posted by majorlatency Sep 21st, 2012 at 7:30AM

    you should go nice and slow, see what develops.....

    Tip..... don't tell someone that you're crazy about them while you're holding a carving knife...

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