Should you ever stop asking for sex, even if you are tired of being refused?

I stopped asking.

I'd rather go to bed without being rejected or insulted...

Believe it or not, after a few years of mourning my sex life, I've stopped missing it and the desire is near gone.

Yes. After a point,you should start asking what's the matter. Tired? Stressed? Worried? Thinks you're having an affair? Or is sex not worth saying "Yes" to,for medical or other reasons? Get some answers. If things still haven't changed,maybe you need to talk about the relationship,and what really matters to you.

If your partner doesn't want to make love to you, it's a symptom of a deeper problem. Fix the problem. Maybe your partner doesn't feel like they are being supported or satisfied emotionally?

A healthy relationship cannot exist without open and honest communication. You'll never know why unless you talk about it.

I don't think you should ask in the first place- If it's not something that your partner wants then what's the point? Or are you just selfish?

maybe you should find out why you're being denied sex, rather than continuously asking. I would get really irritated if someone kept pestering me for sex, and didn't even care to understand why I didn't want them.

If you are being refused, stop asking. If you are not in a relationship with the person, they don't want you. The end. If you are in a relationship with them and sex is important to you, but they don't want it, then you need to have a talk with them.

You need to award this one to "StudentofUnifyingLife" because she's spot on! Find the real problem, restore other forms of intimacy, and sexual intimacy will return.

I think it depends on the reason for not having it. For instance my husband has a labido that would kill most teenagers and would be perfectly happy to have sex 5 times a day and I simply don't have the same level of labido that he does but it is not because I am not interested in him it is because I simply can't keep up and frankly have to make it to work and clean the house sometimes so we can't spend our whole lives in bed.

I would be really sad though if he stopped approaching me. He knows that every time he flirts with me I won't say yes but I do often enough and I go for him sometimes when he is not expecting it and I flirt back but I simply can not keep up with him.

I think you should find out why they keep saying no and see if it is a similar situation to mine or if their is another issue at hand. It is very difficult to talk about it though because they may feel that you are attacking them or blaming them for the problems and they may feel guilty already for not doing their part so you may want to be gentle and approach it from the angle that you feel rejected and want to know how to work with them to fix the situatuion and not the "what is your problem" angle.

If they just don't like you anymore maybe therapy or some more extreme intervention is needed.

Best of luck to you!

If you are repeatedly refused, you should start asking somewhere else.

Student~ You are right on the money! There must be two way communication in any marriage. When you truly love each other, you take the time to care about your partners needs.

Yes, it may be that it has become a game to your partner, a submission / dominance 'thing'. If that isn't your style and you unwittingly play into it, you won't like where it leads.

signed sincerely, personal experience.

Yes stop putting yourself through that. I had to. You can't get blood from a stone. I came to the conclusion that I have nothing to be upset about or get my hopes up about, if I don't even bother with it.

yep. you got something you or her or him need to address start asking.

No, but you should seriously think that something you are doing is not working... you should analyze why and try to do soemthing different.

If somione constantly refuses you this request, I would take it to mean that they are NOT interested! Either that or they need to see a doctor because they have a medical probl;em!

Hard one ----

I stopped asking, I just quit. I got to a point where I hated even seeing him SO much, that I couldn't.

BUT - any committed partner in a relationship should know that a relationship CAN NOT survive without emotional and physical needs being met by both parties.

So - NO - don't stop -- but talk to each other.

If you have to ask, you're doing something wrong.