You should never feel obligated to anyone. Those answering yes well it's a cognitive error<br />
Those families are brainwashed to believe that is how things are but no, trust me. I teach that to criminals ready to release from jail as when the word obligated is involved it is cognitively wrong to think it is. <br />
One other example I can give to explain the cognitive error is, most or lots of people will say “I have to go buy groceries” I have to is obligation, no no “I am going to buy groceries “ is the way to switch the thinking scheme<br />
Bb luv, the only person your own obligation to is yourself first then maybe...
Sooo true. "I want to" was my first motivational switch, ( some well paid for corporate psychology ), and then it just becomes a mater of I will, or I will not.
Yep, unbelievably...once I imprint this new way of thinking to offenders, I have to extra train to prepare facing people outside with cognitive error thinking to help avoid re-offence or get upset and discouraged to reoffend. Each group class I have, some participants express “people outside need this course”
No you should be yourself. Family should want you to be happy / yourself, not to have you for themselves.
Seriously, it is tough for some of them at first. But stick to it. Don't live a life for someone else, no one owes anyone that.
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Absolutely not. Ask anyone with a seriously toxic family just how much involving yourself in their madness can hurt you.
No, no and another big fat, NO.
No! Family or not, being in a relationship because of feelings of obligation is not good!
only to a certain extent helping them should not hurt you
yes, blood is thicker than water.