You should never feel obligated to anyone. Those answering yes well it's a cognitive error
Those families are brainwashed to believe that is how things are but no, trust me. I teach that to criminals ready to release from jail as when the word obligated is involved it is cognitively wrong to think it is.
One other example I can give to explain the cognitive error is, most or lots of people will say “I have to go buy groceries” I have to is obligation, no no “I am going to buy groceries “ is the way to switch the thinking scheme
Bb luv, the only person your own obligation to is yourself first then maybe...
Sooo true. "I want to" was my first motivational switch, ( some well paid for corporate psychology ), and then it just becomes a mater of I will, or I will not.
Yep, unbelievably...once I imprint this new way of thinking to offenders, I have to extra train to prepare facing people outside with cognitive error thinking to help avoid re-offence or get upset and discouraged to reoffend. Each group class I have, some participants express “people outside need this course”
No you should be yourself. Family should want you to be happy / yourself, not to have you for themselves.
Seriously, it is tough for some of them at first. But stick to it. Don't live a life for someone else, no one owes anyone that.
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Absolutely not. Ask anyone with a seriously toxic family just how much involving yourself in their madness can hurt you.
No, no and another big fat, NO.
No! Family or not, being in a relationship because of feelings of obligation is not good!
only to a certain extent helping them should not hurt you
yes, blood is thicker than water.